Journaling for a Change

Do you journal?  It is a great tool for reflecting on life, processing events and emotions, and finding new perspectives.

Some people think journaling is just “adult diary-ing.”  And for some, a journal really is just a place to put down the events of the day (really, that is your perceptions of the events of the day).  It is just a way to record what happened and move forward.

Then, others use their journal to look for themes and insights.  Deeper than just a running commentary of life, journaling becomes an activity of insight and perspective.

But what happens when you want to journal, but find yourself facing an empty page… not even sure what to write?  What if you actually do write something?  How do you shift to a point of reflection and perspective?

Those two questions stop lots of people who want to journal from ever committing to the process.  Or from actually learning from the process.

What if there was a tool that solved both of those dilemmas?

Kim AdesEnter my colleague, Kim Ades.  Her coaching services use a journaling process to connect coach and client.  But Kim knew the tool she built for that journaling had the potential to help others in their journaling… without the coaching component.

In this episode of Thriveology Podcast, Kim and I discuss the power of journaling, along with how you can try her journaling tool for free… to see the transformational power of journaling.

Listen below to learn more.

RELATED RESOURCES
Kim’s Journaling Tool
Interview About Kim’s Coaching Process
Stuck in Your Story

Success and Significance

We all face obstacles in our lives.  No matter how successful, no matter how determined we are, we will have tough moments.  Soul moments.  Times when we have to stop, collect ourselves, let go of who we have been, and step into a new space.

Sometimes, those moments are full of tragedy.

Aaron Walker is the author of View From The TopThat was the case for my guest on this episode of Thriveology Podcast.  Aaron Walker, author of View From The Top, was successful… multiple times.  After growing up poor, Aaron decided to make himself successful.

He started working young, finished high school early, and launched his first business.  He sold that and started another.  Followed by another.

And then, one day… tragedy.  Big enough that Aaron tried to hide from life.  (Aaron tells the story, himself, during our talk.) But life wasn’t quite done yet.  Aaron made a shift from success to significance.

In our discussion, Aaron reveals the cornerstones of building a life of integrity and significance.  Listen in to learn more.

RELATED RESOURCES
Aaron’s Website
Fears We All Have
MPI Triad
Making an Impact

Stepping Strongly Into the New Year

How To Start The New Year Strong.January 1.  Just another day.

And yet… there is something else about that day.  Sure, it starts a new month.  Yes, it starts a new year.

Psychologically, that new start… it matters.

We all need new starts.  That is what I loved about being in school.  When the semester ended, no matter how well (or poorly) I had done, it was over.  The grade was locked in.  Sure, I could consider what I could have done differently, but I couldn’t undo anything.

I moved on to the next class.  A fresh start.  New assignments, new opportunities, new possibilities.

Many of us get caught in the past, trying to figure out how to undo or redo what has already happened.

For this moment, though, as the new year starts, let’s look forward.  Let’s look to the new year and decide how we want to move forward.  How we want the next year to be MORE of what we want… new opportunities and possibilities.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I discuss some ways to start the new year strong.  Listen in to find out.

RELATED RESOURCES
Resolution in a Word
Fresh Starts
Letting Go
Book:  Thrive Principles

Power Habits for Success

Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to succeed at everything they do?  They enjoy success in different areas of life… including financially.

Noah St. John, author of Power Habits for Success, Afformations, and other books.Then, others seem to struggle over and over, making little progress toward their goal.  Noah St. John refers to this as “success anorexia,” people starving themselves from success — because they don’t know better!

In fact, my guest on this episode of the Thriveology podcast is Noah.  The author of a number of books, Noah is also a frequent speaker, coach, and consultant with those who have tried all the other success strategies, but without success.

In his research, Noah looked at what he calls the success “naturals,” to see what they might be doing… and not even noticing they are doing.

This led to his Power Habits.  According to Noah, “We don’t rise to the level of our goals, but fall to the level of our systems.”  And  that is the level Noah addresses — how to up-level your systems… and get rid of the “Head Trash,” the self-defeating patterns of thought about why you can’t do ______ (fill in the blank).  As Noah points out, whatever self-talk we have, we make sure we are right.

Listen to our discussion below.

RELATED RESOURCES
Noah’s Book on Amazon
Noah’s Gifts at his Website
My Series on Habits

On a Mission of Health

What happens when one day, you wake up and realize you are overweight, deep in debt, and desperately holding onto a crumbling relationship?

Adam Schaeuble, PhD (Previously Heavy Dude) and his Million Pound Mission to bring health to his community and the world.If you are Adam Schaeuble, PhD (“Previously Heavy Dude”), you finally decide to make a change.

On that day, Adam finally took action… the same actions he had been putting off.  This time, though, something had shifted.

Many have that moment when they are “sick and tired of being sick and tired.”  They finally make a shift.  (I should know.  I had that experience.)  It is the moment of reckoning.

But for Adam, it was bigger than that.  It was not just about his health, wealth, and love.  It was about his meaning… his purpose.  Adam wanted to make an impact on the world… in a positive way.

And that day, he took the kickstart.  First, he lost weight and got into shape.  He then started helping others to do the same.  And soon, it was a mission for his community.  But now, it is his mission for the world!

It is his Million Pound Mission.  But the pounds are just markers for people regaining their health, taking control of their lives and well-being.

I met Adam at a conference a couple of times… and told him I wanted him to come on my podcast.  So, I am fortunate to have him on my Thriveology Podcast.  Listen below to his story and how we all can make a shift to a better life.

RELATED RESOURCES
Adam’s Website
My Thriving Body Series
MPI Triad
Book:  The Immutable Laws Of Living

 

The Power of Expectations

Art Costello and the Power of Expectations.What do you expect from life?  Sometimes, our expectations can get us into trouble.  Maybe you expect things to go badly.  Or maybe you expect something beyond your control.  Either way, your expectations trip you up.

Yet every action you take is based on expectation.  Sure, you want to “live in the present moment.”  But present moments are often moving toward something.  For example, as I sit here, I write this with an expectation that you will read it.  If I expected it would not be read, I would do something else.

Or lets say I go to the fridge to open it.  I didn’t blindly do that.  I was expecting to find something to eat (which may or may not work out… but I have an expectation).

Some people advise us to give up expectations.  No expectation, no disappointment, they say.

But today, my guest disagrees.  He says expectations have power.  We need to tap into our expectations in order to create the life we want.

Art Costello is creator of Expectation Therapy.  He says your life changes when you change your expectation.  It is the seed from which we both perceive the world and grow into our better lives.

Listen in to master the power of your expectations.

RELATED RESOURCES
Art Costello’s Website, Expectation Therapy
Kill That Sacred Cow!
The Power of A Challenge
Big WHY versus Little Why’s

 

Learn or… Learn

Win or lose... or learn and learn.I don’t know about you, but I was raised around competition.  Not so much from my parents, but from culture.  In school, you compete in all sorts of tasks… trying to prove how smart, how good, how talented, how athletic, how whatever you are… compared to the others.

It doesn’t stop there, but keeps on going.  Win or lose.  That’s all that matters.  Well, winning.  That’s what matters.

Remember Ricky Bobby from the movie, Talladega Nights? “If you ain’t first, you’re last!”  In other words, you win… or you have lost.

(Do remember, though, that at another point in the movie, Ricky Bobby is talking with his Dad… and gets challenged:
Ricky Bobby: “Wait, Dad. Don’t you remember the time you told me ‘If you ain’t first, you’re last’?”
Reese Bobby: “Huh? What are you talking about, Son?”
Ricky Bobby: “That day at school.”
Reese Bobby: “Oh hell, Son, I was high that day. That doesn’t make any sense at all, you can be second, third, fourth… hell you can even be fifth.”
Ricky Bobby: “What? I’ve lived my whole life by that!”
There you go… a first… a quote in a Will Ferrell movie to make a point about thriving!)

We grow up on that whole “win or learn” thing… which ties us tightly to our ego.  If we win, ego boost.  If we lose, ego bruise.  What will others think??

Maybe it is worth making a shift.

Nelson Mandela said, “I never lose. I either win or I learn.” When you don’t win, you can learn! Great shift.  “Losing” is an opportunity for learning.  When you don’t win, there is an opportunity for growth, for learning… for being better.

But it is still bound by ego. What if it isn’t even the win? But the learn? Then, we either learn… or we learn.

Listen to this episode for more on winning/losing versus learning/learning.

RELATED RESOURCES
What I learned in Jiu Jitsu
More I learned in Jiu Jitsu
Even MORE I learned in Jiu Jitsu
Trial-And-Error Mindset
Three Growth Mindsets
Showing UP
Book:  Thrive Principles
Book:  The Immutable Laws of Living

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Course Corrections and Course Changes

Do you need to make a course correction or a course change?“How did I end up here?,” my client asked.  He told me that for so long, he thought he was headed in the right direction.  Now, he thinks maybe it was the entirely wrong direction.

I asked him, “Did you course correct along the way?”  He looked at me rather quizzically.  So, I elaborated, “If you are sailing, you point the boat toward some object in the distance, in the direction you want to sail.  You sail toward it.  But the winds push, the current pushes, and you end up a little off-course.  So, you course correct.”

But then, I added: “Sometimes, you realize that where you thought you wanted to go is not really where you want to go… or maybe it isn’t safe to go.  Maybe a storm or something else.  But you have to go somewhere else.  So, you change course.”

And I continued, “Then there are the times when you don’t course-correct as you go, and the small space of being off-course begins to broaden as you go.  What might have been just a course correction at the beginning is now a course change.”

Then I returned to our dialogue and asked, “So, did you course correct… or is this a course change?”

Just to be clear:  either is fine.  We all have the option of course changes in life.  Sometimes, it is just a course correction.  But it is okay if you need a course change.

It’s a part of life.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I explore the difference between a course correction and a course change.  What does it look like, and when is it time for a change?

Listen below.

RELATED RESOURCES
Book:  Immutable Laws of Living
Dealing with Change
How Are You Showing Up
Meaning and Purpose

Playing Life For Real

David Wood, Playing Life For Real, playforreal.lifeHow’s your life going? The way you want?  Or not quite?  Do you want to “level up” and play a bigger game?  Have a bigger life?

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I chat with David Wood, successful-entrepreneur-turned-life-coach.  Nope, not a business coach (although he does some of that), but a life coach.  Helping successful people “level up” to more success.

While David had been successful in his work, something was missing — connection.  Tied to an early childhood trauma (we talk about it), David decided to “play it safe” with relationships… and then realized that “playing it safe” kept him disconnected and distant.

How?

Playing bigger.  Taking risks.  Daring.  And Caring.

David starts with a question, “What if we are living in a maze, running it every day?  We can keep doing that, or we can step back and decide to play it bigger.”

Using his 3 Pillars and 4 Point Plan, David points the way to anyone wanting to play on a bigger field.  To play “full out” in the game of life — which David notes is a very important game!

Listen below.

RELATED RESOURCES:
David Wood’s Website (Free Assessment and/or Free Session)
My Interview with Jack Canfield
Fear and Your Life
Showing Up

Healing Metabolism and Restoring Health

Tracee Gluhaich, The High Energy Girl, on Keto, metabolism, and chronic cardio.  Healing your metabolism.Did you know that repetitive dieting and relentless exercise can actually break your metabolism?  Your body has an amazing capacity of adjusting to circumstances around you.  If you simply drop your caloric intake, your body will assume there is a famine… and will reduce your metabolism.

If you take part in “chronic cardio,” endless cardio exercise (running, biking, climbing machines, treadmills, etc.), even if the heart monitor tells you that your pace is in “fat burning zone,” your body will quickly adjust… and you will suffer diminishing returns.

Unless you “hack” your approach, dialing back to an older energy method of your body.  That is the heart of the ketogenic approach.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, the “High Energy Girl,” Tracee Gluhaich, joins me for a discussion of her own story through diets, and how she coaches people toward healing their metabolism… and healing their relationship with food.

Tracee was raised on body-shaming beliefs that put her on a course (crash-course) through a multitude of diet and exercise approaches.  Until it all fell apart.

From there, Tracee had to rebuild, relearn, and heal.  Now, she helps people to heal their metabolism.  And she helps women to heal their relationship with food… many people trying to fill their void with food.

Join me as Tracee and I explore food, emotions, metabolism, and healing.

RELATED RESOURCES
Tracee’s Website (And Her Resources)
Your Thriving Body
Mastering Habits