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Get Unstuck Wrap-up

June 27, 2016 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

People get stuck for several reasons:

The Past
The Future
Your Energy

None of the 3 have to keep you stuck. First, you have to identify the source of “Stuck,” and then decide how to move through it.

Unstuck becomes a choice — but only after understanding the Stuck. Stare at the Cost-Benefit and decide if you are just choosing to be stuck. Or if you are ready to move beyond it.

As we wrap up the Get Unstuck series, I provide some specific steps to take in order to be free from the pains of the past, the anxieties of the future, and a lack of energy. Join me as we move beyond Stuck.

GETTING UNSTUCK SERIES
Intro To Getting Unstuck
How You Get Stuck
You Are Not As Stuck As You Think
Give Up Your Goals & Get Unstuck
Loops
Shift Your Perspective
When Fear Has You Stuck
The KNAC Protocol For Getting Unstuck
4 Steps To Changing Limiting Beliefs

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4 Steps To Changing Your Limiting Beliefs

June 20, 2016 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Within you, lurking just below the surface, there are some beliefs that are limiting you. Your Limiting Beliefs influence your thoughts and your perspective. They mold your paradigm and keep you held hostage.

You can break free from those beliefs. You don’t have to be held hostage. There is a simple 4-step process that will allow you to defeat and destroy those beliefs, once and for all.

Here are the 4 C’s steps:

C-onscious
C-hallenge
C-hange
C-ommit

And once you know the secret to uncovering the beliefs, you just apply the steps, one-by-one. The limiting beliefs dissipate, replaced by your aspirational beliefs.

Try them out and tell me what you think!

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When Fear Has You Stuck. . .

May 30, 2016 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Fear. It hits us all. And I’m not talking about a “fright,” a startle from something around you. But fear. True fear.

We all have it. But it doesn’t have to keep you stuck.

The real problem is our relationship with fear. We learn to avoid fear — and the things that provoke fear.

In fact, it is not the thing, but our thoughts and avoidance of even feeling the fear, that keeps us stuck.

Too many times, people will mention something they want to do, then continue with why that can’t because of a fear.

It is as if the fear has some power to stop the dreams, the hopes, the aspirations. The only power the fear has is the power we give it.

The antidote? Courage. Action. Courageous action.

Here’s how:

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Beliefs, Behavior, and a Fierce Life

January 25, 2016 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

In the last podcast, I suggested giving up a Fear Life, and moving to a Fierce Life. That was not a life devoid of fear, but one that chose a path in spite of fear. It is the courageous life, lived with clarity and purpose, and with intensity.

Sometimes, how we think about ourselves, our personal beliefs, hold us back. We get caught up in “I’m not. . .” and “I can’t. . . .”

When I started running, I never knew when I could start calling myself a “runner.” When I decided to run? After my first run? After my first race? After running for a week, a month, a year?

Sometimes, it is the difference between process and product. For example, the “product” that many people want are 6-pack abs. They forget about the process of daily healthy choices. They get stuck on the end result, not the path to get there.

This is true with living a fierce life. That life is built one choice, one step, one day, at a time.

To be honest, when I was preparing for the last few podcasts, I found myself saying, “I don’t live a fierce life — I’m not fierce.” I let my old belief system establish whether I am that person or not. Do I always live fiercely? No. But can I choose to live MORE fiercely? Absolutely!

And a fierce life is built one choice, one decision, one action at a time. Slowly, you become FIERCE.

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3 Myths of Fear

December 21, 2015 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Fear. Does it get in your way? Do you believe the myths of fear?

Those myths keep you stuck. Fear becomes the jailor of your life, not the friend it pretends to be.

If you want to get to the other side of fear, you need to know the myths of fear. Let’s talk about the 3 big ones in this week’s Thriveology Podcast.

Will you get rid of your fears? No. But that isn’t the goal, and isn’t even necessary.

It IS necessary to understand the myths, and then move beyond the fears the the life you want and deserve.

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New Series: The Other Side of Fear

December 14, 2015 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

We start a new series for Thriveology Podcast: The Other Side of Fear.

Over the years, countless clients have said the same thing. First, they would tell me of some dream, some goal, some hope, they wanted to attain. I would then ask, “Why haven’t you started?”

And the answer was always the same, “I’m too scared to start.”

They wanted to stop feeling fear.

My goal was a bit different. It was to get them to be able to say, “I’m scared, AND I am getting started.”

Fear. It is one of those inevitables of life. Many people assume that there is some group of people out there who are successful BECAUSE they have no fear. In reality, successful people have gotten there DESPITE their fears.

They have the same fears that everyone does. They have simply taken the next step, and begun to act.

Let’s take a look at the other side of fear, where all your dreams are!

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Control What You CAN Control. . .

November 22, 2015 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

We spend lots of time trying to control our Fears, Feelings, and Thoughts. But, we can’t. We can decide how long they will keep us stuck, but we just can’t stop them from popping up. And yet, we spend LOTS of energy trying to avoid them.

Why not spend your time on what you CAN control?

You do have a choice about your Aspirations, Attitude, and Actions. Focus there.

Let go of the things you can’t control and then choose to control what you CAN control.

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Be Courageous: What Thrivers Know

August 24, 2015 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. 1 Comment

Are you courageous? If you are like most people I know, you will tell me you are not. “Not me,” you will say, “I am too afraid to be courageous.”

I would remind you that if you are afraid, you are half-way to courage. The only element missing is acting.

[tweetthis]Courage is not “action without fear.” It is “acting in spite of fear.”[/tweetthis]

If you do something and are not at all fearful, then that is just doing something (and likely not anything particularly important).

But if you are feeling fear, and you choose to take action anyway, then you have acted courageously. More than that, you are probably doing something important.

Too often, we use fear as an “avoidance indicator.” Really, it is an “importance indicator.” What is most important to you likely exists just on the other side of your fears. Act in that direction. Be courageous.

Listen to learn how.

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Take A Leap!

February 23, 2015 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

I thought we were doing well. The conference was going well. I thought the participants were happy.

But sometimes, you can tell by the expression. . . .

I saw her headed toward me, red-faced and determined. I turned to face her, and with a big grin, asked, “How can I help you?”

She stuck her finger in my face and proclaimed, “YOU CAN GO TAKE A LEAP!”

With that, she turned and stormed out.

For a few moments, I was in shock, not quite sure what to do with that.

Then, I decided that maybe it was good advice. I should take some leaps! We should ALL take some leaps! Take some risks, push our comfort zones, grow, stretch.

Fear.

We think fear is our friend. We listen to fear. Whenever we feel fear, we are tempted to believe we should stop, retreat, and be safe.

Too often, we believe fear is an Avoidance Detector. I believe it is an Importance Detector.

Fear points out when something is important. Maybe we need to be careful and avoid it. But maybe we need to pursue it, because it is important.

Whenever we feel fear, it is telling us something is important. What we do with that is up to us.

Today, I explore how to make fear your Importance Detector.

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3 Steps to Dealing With Doubt: 40 Thriveology Podcast

October 20, 2014 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

That tiny little voice whispers to us: “Don’t do it. Don’t try it. You can’t do it. You won’t make it.”

That little voice of doubt.

Do you have it?

You do.

How do I know?

We ALL have it. We all believe we are the only ones suffering from those feelings of doubt.

But those doubts are universal. Nobody is immune.

When you look at someone and see confidence, you might believe differently.

That confidence is the outward emotion. It doesn’t mean the internal feeling is of self-doubt and fear.

The very talented and famous actor, Sir Laurence Olivier, suffered from stage fright. Yet his performances sparkled. His great acting was not because he had no doubt, no fear. It was in spite of his fears and doubts.

Sometimes, we find it easier to give in to the fears and doubts. We decide to “play it small,” to avoid the challenge. And in the end, we allow the self-doubt to win.

In this week’s podcast, I offer a 3 step process to stop self-doubt in its tracks. Don’t let self-doubt keep you stuck!

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