“But where do I start?”, he asked. I was at a conference talking about thriving. I’d spent a good amount of time discussing some principles of thriving. But I could tell it was a bit overwhelming to my new friend.
He challenged me, “You said I could thrive, no matter what life is throwing my way. So, where do I start if things are going well, and where do I start when things are not going so well?”
I thought for a brief moment and said, “Either way, you aim at two targets. They both apply, whether things are going well or not so well. When you are at the top of your game or at the bottom, these two targets remain.”
“It can’t be that easy,” he replied.
“Easy? I never mentioned ‘easy.’ I just said that there are two targets, no matter where you are,” I offered.
“OK,” he responded, “I’m all ears. What are the two targets?”
Gratitude and Growth.
Those are the two targets. Targets… you aim at them. You may not always hit them. But you aim at them.
When things are good, it is easier to remember to practice gratitude — and yet, we often forget to do it. When things are tough, there are still things for which to be grateful. But it can be a challenge.
When times are tough, growth is often the outcome. But it isn’t always fun to find the lessons. And when things are good, we think we have it down — no need to learn. And yet, there are plenty of things to learn at the top. And at that bottom. And in between.
In this episode of the podcast, I discuss these two targets. And how to hit them.