Other than a few people who were being self-critical and a bit harsh with themselves, I have yet to have someone say, “You know, I am just not trying. I am kinda sliding by, not really doing what I think I should.”
Almost everyone (other than those few who were really just sharing their personal self-criticism) tells me how they are doing the best they can. . . and not getting where they want to get to.
Over the years, I have decided that people really do the best they can, given where they are. That is a life precept for me — my way of viewing people. Admittedly, I have times when I have to remind myself of this little belief. Not because I stopped believing, but because I lost my empathy. Then I step back, see it again, and reaffirm that people do the best they can.
To be clear, that does not mean that we are all operating at optimal functioning. Far from it. “Where we are” is what keeps us from operating at a better place. It is just my belief that people are truly doing the best they (we) can, given where they (we) are.
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