In the process, we lose focus on the present moment. Instead, we focus on things that may never be, either worriedly or wishingly.
You see, your mind is excellent at scenarios that may play out in the future. In fact, the scenarios and scenes are probably Oscar-worthy.
When I was sick, years ago, I realized that I could not live in the world of “What If?” It took all of my energy to live in the world of “What Is”.
And it turns out, that was an important life lesson.
During my illness, of which there were some pretty significant (and deadly) consequences, I often said, “Let’s wait and see.” When presented with potential effects of the illness, many told to me by well-meaning friends and family, I had to re-state, “Let’s wait and see.”
At least 95% of the “what if’s” never happened.
Isn’t that true with most of life? Yet, we get caught up in those things down the road. As Julius Caesar said,
As a rule, men worry more about what they can’t see than about what they can.
And yet, those future scenarios do nothing to prepare us for what is coming our way. We just pretend it does. And as Leo Buscaglia reminds us:
Worry never robs tomorrow of sorrow. It only saps today of its joy.
Let’s make a shift. Let’s move from “What If?” Instead, let’s embrace “What Is.” That is enough for the moment.