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Train Your Brain to Thrive

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 13 May 2025 10:00:45 +0000

How Neuroscience, Mindset, and Action Work Together

Good intentions pave a road to nowhere good… right? But why is it that even our best of intentions, our best plans, do not get us the results we want? Why is it that we stall out (assuming we even get a good start)?

It turns out that success (and thriving) takes far more than just the desire to get there. It takes far more than simply starting.

And yet, we humans seem to just get our own selves into trouble. We trip ourselves up!

Fortunately, there are ways we can get out of our own way… and neuroscience can help us.

Which is why I am bringing you an interview with John Assaraf. You may be familiar with him from his various media appearances, or from his books, or even from a few documentary movies he’s been in. And if you haven’t seen him yet, you will love hearing from him.

You Are Going To Die

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 10:00:48 +0000

Let’s just say it and get it out of the way. You, I, and everyone else, is going to die. An inescapable fact of life. We will die.

A morbid thought? I don’t think it has to be a morbid thought, as much as an organizing thought.

Reality.

It brings things into focus.

Years ago, I met a man who was dying from cancer. He was focused, determined. His prognosis was terminal, so that was not his determination. He was determined to live out the rest of his life to the fullest. He spent his time working on projects dear to him. He made apologies and amends to those whom he felt he had hurt. He was letting his loved ones know they were loved.

His imminent death gave him focus.

One day, he turned to me, after I told him how much I respected how he was facing death, and said, “What about YOUR death?”

“What?,” I asked. I wasn’t the one dying, after all.

Then he said, “YOU are going to die, too. Maybe after me, maybe before me. But you will die, too. Don’t wait. There may be no waiting.”

Death has a way of rearranging your priorities.

Listen to this week’s podcast to ponder death and YOUR life.

Unlooping Loops

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 10:00:11 +0000

It’s just human nature. We like things finished

And when they’re not, they can often tug at us, pulling energy and focus away. When things are left hanging, we feel (oh, by the way, the last word from that first line is “finished”) incomplete, unfinished, unsatisfied. Did you feel that sensation when you realized a word was missing… and it bugged you? Unfinished loop.

So, what is a “Loop?” Great question. This one concept, if you understand it, will help you get free. If you feel stuck, this is something you need to understand. More than that, this is one of the most. . .

Tell you what, I’ll let you listen and hear for yourself.

Ways to Transform Your Life (Today)

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 04 Mar 2025 11:00:39 +0000

My coaching client was wanting to thrive. He told me he was constantly studying about self-growth. But he wanted to really transform his life. And, he told me, so much of what he was reading was, to quote him, “woo-woo stuff.” He used that term as a reference to ideas he thought were “out there.”

So first, let me just say, what is “out there” to one person is commonplace and sensible to another. But I knew what he was saying. He wanted to change things in his life… but he wanted it based in research and reliability. He wanted to get it down to the basics.

I told him we could easily look at the “low hanging fruit,” the easy things to accomplish — the ones that give the biggest bang for the effort… pretty much guaranteed.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I outline 4 areas to improve, all in very “non-woowoo” ways… and very simple ways… so that you can get the biggest bang for your efforts.

Listen in for the details!

Your Challenge… Should You Accept it

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 11:00:08 +0000

Are you up for a challenge?

In the last episode of my podcast, I discussed how to hold on when life is tough. That’s when life is challenging you.

But what about when life isn’t so challenging… where life is copacetic? Just cruising.

It’s my observation that we work hard to keep life flat. We work hard to keep things smooth. Is it cold outside? Turn on the heater. Is it hot outside? Turn on the A/C. Keep things even… even-keeled. Flat.

We spend LOTS of energy to save the energy of dealing with challenges, big or small.

But does that help (or harm) us? Does it keep us safe or make us fragile?

What if taking on small challenges actually gets us better prepared for bigger challenges? What if making choices to expand into life helps us deal with life encroaching upon us?

One of my “things” is to find little challenges for myself… new things to try, new activities to do, new tastes or sounds to take in, and new ways to try life.

How about you? What challenges are you taking on right now?

Listen to this episode of the Thriveology Podcast to discover the power of a challenge.

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Your Why’s

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 11:00:39 +0000

What’s your WHY? Your BIG WHY? Why you are here. The WHY that is your life purpose?

I think we all have one… even if we haven’t found it yet. It’s there. Within us. Your first task is to find it. That’s important. But finding it isn’t enough. Second, you have to move toward it, work toward it… try to fulfill it. If it is big enough, it may just take you the rest of your life!

But what could get in your way??

The little “why’s.” Your questions about “why did this happen?”, “why are things this way?”, “why do I feel this way?”

Those little why’s can drown out the BIG WHY. It draws our attention away from what is important. And yet, those little why’s get our attention and energy. They keep us in circles, chasing after nothing helpful or useful. Just stuck.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I discuss our BIG WHY and the little why’s that keep us away from the BIG WHY.

Hang in There!

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Fri, 07 Feb 2025 11:00:27 +0000

Life is tough.

Not always. But along the way. And even after you get past one struggle, that doesn’t mean there isn’t another one up ahead. That’s just the nature of life.

It doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong or that the world, God, or the Universe is out to teach you a lesson. It’s just the nature of life.

You may notice 2 crowds. First is the “Grind Culture” that just says to suck it up, keep on grinding, and MAKE it work. They have a point that you have to get through some tough times. But sometimes, it is wise to step back and ask if the fight is worth it.

Then there is the “Sign Culture.” That group tells you that any struggle is an indication you are on the wrong path, that something is wrong with you, and that life “should” be easy… if you are doing it right. They have a point that sometimes, a struggle is pointing to you moving the wrong way… swimming upstream. But the fact is, life means struggles… at times.

So what do you do to hold up when life gets you down?

We discuss it… and 5 things to do… on this episode of the Thriveology Podcast. Listen below.

Blame and Responsibility

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 11:00:55 +0000

Blame is rampant in today’s world. We all quickly point the finger at someone/something else, proclaiming, “It’s not my fault!”

Interestingly, I also notice how rampant it is for people to take the credit for successes.

They/we claim credit for what goes right but refuse blame for anything that goes wrong.

We live in a “culture of blame.”

Which is what often keeps us from growing. From changing. From learning from our mistakes. If someone/something else is to blame, what could I (or you) do? Not my fault… not my problem.

Change requires us to change the equation. To take responsibility, when we are responsibible. To share credit when others deserve credit.

Great leadership is about accepting ultimate responsibility for mistakes and problems, while giving credit for successes.

So, how do we turn the equation around? I discuss it in this week’s Thriveology Podcast.

Find Your Flow

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 07 Jan 2025 11:00:00 +0000

Maybe it’s just me… but I don’t think so! Sometimes, we get so stuck in win/lose mentality that we defeat ourselves. We struggle, wear ourselves out, and never get to the point of something else.

What else?

Learning. Nelson Mandela said, “I don’t lose. I either win or I learn.” What I have realized is, I either learn or learn. Sure, there may be an outcome… I win the game or lose the game.

But more importantly, did I learn? Did I take something forward with me… that will make a difference as I move forward?

In this episode, I highlight the shift — as well as how to make it — with my experiences in jiu jitsu, disc golf, and pickleball.

Listen below.

Your Me Exception

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. — Tue, 05 Jul 2022 18:11:02 +0000

Do you ever do something that breaks a rule (or even a law), thinking to yourself that it doesn’t apply to you?

I do.

Sometimes, I use that speed limit sign as a suggestion. I’m a good driver, I tell myself. What harm could +5mph do? Except the sign is a law, not a guideline or suggestion.

But I explain it away. I decide it is ok.

I dare to venture that very close to 100% of people do something similar with some rule or law in their own lives. Someone tells me that they think affairs are bad and unacceptable, while excusing their own infidelity. I once saw a doctor (some years back) tell a patient that smoking was very bad for them, and they needed to stop… while heading out for a smoke break!

I could go on and on.

How do we make those moments make sense? The “Me Exception,” to borrow a term I recently read about. (The topic I was reading about is politically charged, but my observations were meant to note how we ALL do it, every day… and not about the topic I was reading about.)

The Me Exception. We all do it… and it isn’t particularly beneficial to us thriving. It might even be dangerous to the greater good!

Listen in below as we explore your Me Exception.

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