It was interesting to see how much my client seemed to relish her self-diagnosed “issue” when she smilingly told me, “I’m a bit of a control freak. I just want things my way. Mostly because I know how they should be.”
So, I asked that tough question, “How is that working out for you?”
The smile turned to tears as she told me how much pushback she was getting from people. “They just don’t know better,” she assured me, letting me know that she just needed some better ways of getting people to follow her lead (ummm, demands).
My client was making a common mistake. One that leads to misery — on her part and the part of others around her. She was trying to control things she could not. AND she was failing to control things she could.
The desire to control comes from fear. We fear things won’t go well, won’t work out. So, we innocently try to control things… the wrong things.
There are only a few things we can control. But when we switch from trying to control the things we cannot to the things we can, life opens up! Controlling what we can, it turns out, is enough.
In this week’s Thriveology Podcast, I cover another Rule for Living: Control the Things You Can, and Release the Rest. Listen below.