A few weeks ago, a coaching client noted her resistance to forgiving for fear that she would be vulnerable to being hurt. I told her that was not at all true. In fact, being alive leaves you open to hurt!
But not forgiving? It offers no protection. It does, however, prolong the pain caused by some person or event.
This client was not the only one who told me about her concern of forgiving. I have heard it over and over through my three decades of counseling and coaching.
Most people have fallen into a habit of hanging on to the hurt, of not forgiving. They have a habit of UN-forgiving.
Let me suggest that, just like any other habit, you can change this habit. You can foster a Forgive Habit. There, you more quickly work toward forgiving the hurts and pains you feel from events and others. And in the process, you find freedom to move forward with a thriving life.
In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I discuss The Forgive Habit and how to foster it.