Self Forgiveness

How to Forgive Yourself

May 24, 2021 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

HowToForgiveYourself Forgiving is an important skill. When we forgive people for hurts and slights in the past, we get to free ourselves from those events.

(That skill is so important that I wrote a book about the process I created. That book is The Forgive Process.)

But what about forgiving yourself?

Why would you need to do that?

Because we all do thing, say things, fail to do and say things, that we regret. And those regrets can haunt us. They can keep us stuck in the past… in events that are already over.

Sometimes, if another person is involved, they might not even remember what happened or what was said. But you might continue to torture yourself, chastising yourself for what you said/did, didn’t say/didn’t do.

This requires another skill: self-forgiveness.

Not just a way to get yourself off the hook. Not just a way to gloss over what happened. But a way to move forward.

How do you forgive yourself? Listen to this podcast episode to find out!

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Never Too Late (until it’s too late)

April 8, 2019 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Lorraine Hoving - It's never too late to change It’s never too late! Until it’s too late!

We all have an expiration date! But up until then… there is time. But don’t take up too much time not getting there. The sooner you do, the better your life will be, for as long as it goes on.

Isn’t that a dichotomy? It’s never too late to make a change. But don’t put it off!

Here’s the thing. If there are things you have wanted to do, but haven’t… you can really be hard on yourself. You can chastise and shame yourself for not having taken action. All the while, you are putting it off even longer.

OR, you can decide that the moment for change is NOW. Not “someday.” Not “maybe tomorrow.” Today.

On her 60th birthday, with a full day of celebration planned, Lorraine Hoving woke up in a panic. It occured to her that if she was fortunate enough to live to 90, she was 2/3rds of the way through life. And that was assuming she was headed for 90!

That very day, Lorraine thought about all the goals, hopes, and dreams she had… and had not yet hit. At that point, she was overweight and hiding from life. And on that day, she decided things had to change.

Lorraine says she took “100% responsibility for how” her life went. She forgave herself. She forgave others. And she took control of her life.

Now, she is on a mission to help others build their life… they way THEY want it. Starting now. It’s never too late… until it’s too late.

Listen in as Lorraine Hoving and I discuss how she took control of her life and made it a life she loves.

RELATED RESOURCES:
Lorraine’s Website
Taking Responsibility
Starting Now
Forgiving
Book: The Forgive Process

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How To Forgive Yourself

May 28, 2018 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

HowToForgiveYourself Forgiving is an important skill. When we forgive people for hurts and slights in the past, we get to free ourselves from those events.

(That skill is so important that I wrote a book about the process I created. That book comes out in October.)

But what about forgiving yourself?

Why would you need to do that?

Because we all do thing, say things, fail to do and say things, that we regret. And those regrets can haunt us. They can keep us stuck in the past… in events that are already over.

This requires another skill: self-forgiveness.

Not just a way to get yourself off the hook. Not just a way to gloss over what happened. But a way to move forward.

How do you forgive yourself? Listen to this week’s episode to find out!

Podcast: Play in new window | Download

Subscribe: RSS