I’m not an athlete, I told myself. I was the last chosen for teams pretty much every time. And more often than not, admittedly, I dropped the ball or didn’t run fast enough. So I lived up to the low expectations of being a teammate.
That kept me believing that I was not an athlete. And so, I never tried to be athletic.
Years later, when I was recovering from being sick, I decided I needed to get into shape. I was motivated by a scuba class when I realized how out of shape I was. I dragged myself into the weight room, so I wouldn’t embarrass myself in class. I took to the pool for the same reason.
And I slowly got into shape. Which led to a friend asking if I wanted to adventure race. Why not? I might as well, I reasoned. Then, I trained and completed a trail marathon. And ran quite a few 5k’s. Not an athlete, though.
Then, at a conference, someone told me she wanted to write a book, but she “wasn’t a writer.” I asked what she was doing. She wrote every single day. And she had lots of pieces put together for her future book. But, she “wasn’t a writer.”
I noted to her that writers do one thing. They write. She was writing, ergo she was a writer!
Then I went for a run. And thought about that discussion. Runners are athletes. Runners run. I was running. Ergo, I was a runner… and maybe an athlete?
My mindset had tripped me up. I had myself in a fixed mindset. And to get to a better place, I needed to shift to a growth mindset.
In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I discuss Dr. Carol Dweck’s concept of growth and fixed mindsets from her book, Mindset. A fixed mindset keeps us stuck. But a growth mindset always gives room for growth and change.
Listen in to discover where your mindset is stuck… and how to shift it to growth.
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