it’s not my fault

Control. We all want it. We strive for it, wrestle for it, grab for it. . . and end up trying to control the wrong things.

Human nature. We try to control the things we can’t control, and abdicate control over the things we should control.

When we try to control people, events, and things external to us, we are headed for frustration and failure.

When we seek to control things within ourselves, we discover resolve and build a thriving life.

And yet, we generally seek to control those external things. That happens out of fear.

At the same time, we fail to control those internal things within us. That happens out of blame (and fear).

Time to solve the Control Paradox! (Listen below for how to solve it. And hey, if you find it useful, could you SHARE so that others can find it?)

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All day, our minds are throwing us thoughts, waiting to see which ones we bite.

And boy, do we ever bite!

We keep on repeating those thoughts, telling ourselves the same lines and stories over and over. Pretty soon, we forget it was just a passing thought and believe it is the truth.

Some of those thoughts just get us stuck. We believe them to the point that we can’t get moving. More than that, the thoughts give us reasons and excuses to not get moving.

Today, I tackle biggies. These are three of those repetitive thoughts that keep us stuck, and allow us to stay stuck. Here they are:

“I’m not good enough.”
“It’s not my fault.”
“Life’s not fair.”

Sound familiar?

They certainly sound familiar to me! I have said all of them to myself. I have even gone looking for proof. Only to find that they just keep me stuck. They don’t help or serve me. They just keep me from taking action.

How about you?

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