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Your Heaven on Earth

February 22, 2021 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

It is so easy to get pulled into threats and dangers, mishaps and mistakes. It is wired into our brain to have a focus on the negative. Which is too bad. That means we are more likely to miss the good moments, the highlights of life, in favor of the down moments. We clearly see the negative, but can miss the positive.

Unless, of course, we nurture a focus on the positive. Unless we look for those moments of “heaven on earth.”

What are your moments of heaven?

Martin Rutte spent his career helping companies enter into dialogue for transformation. He led difficult discussions so that company cultures could transform. Dialogue is a powerful tool of exploration. Which, unfortunately, is often replaced by debate in our culture. That is what happens when we stop listening, demanding our own viewpoint. Martin has worked to shift from the hell of debate to the heaven of dialogue.

And that led him to wonder what we might be able to do to shift our world in a better direction. So, he started wondering about those moments of heaven people have. What were the moments? What was common to those moments? How might those moments become a more intentional part of life? What if that process starts expanding those moments for more people? Might culture and society transform?

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, Martin gets me to discuss my moment of heaven on earth… and how I might bring that moment more into my own life. We discuss the power of three simple questions, the power of dialogue, and the need for cultural transformation right now. In this moment. Perhaps a shift to a moment of heaven on earth?

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How to Engage in Life

August 10, 2020 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Wow! What a time in history, right? A pandemic rages. Division is pulling us apart. Sometimes, it seems easier just to crawl under a rock and hide.

But hiding isn’t the solution. And you have more to offer than hiding. You are built to engage the world, to make a difference.

Then why do we “play small”? When there should be more to life? More for YOU to do in life? More your life should be about?

That life you are thinking about… that is the Engaged Life. Living with more engagement, more depth, more meaning… more purpose.

Over the years, this has been a fairly constant refrain from clients: “There should be more to life than THIS.” There is….

Engaging in life. Being engaged in life.

Living a bit deeper… a bit wider.

Over the years, 3 P’s have emerged as the Path to living an engaged life. Those 3 P’s: Passion, Purpose, and Presence.

When you are focused on building those 3 areas, your Engaged Life builds.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I cover the 3 P’s of Living an Engaged Life. Listen below.

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Challenge Makes Us Grow

April 27, 2020 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

When I was a kid, I hit this point when I was growing fast. So fast that my limbs hurt, I constantly tripped, and knocked everthing over as my hand got there before I expected. Growth was a challenge.

Generally, though, it works the other way. When we are challenged (and take it on), we grow. A child wants to crawl, then walk, then run. But wanting to is not the same as being able to. Crawling ends up being a bellyflop. Walking leads to teetering bottom-bumps. And running… well, that just leads to face-plants. But so far, I have never seen a child give up and say, “Well, I just can’t do that. I guess I’m not meant to crawl/walk/run.” The child just tries again.

Challenge is something we can rise to, expand into. And when we do, challenge is the impetus for growth.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I talk with Steve Sims. At the age of 15, Steve finished his schooling in England, and stepped right into what seemed to be his destiny: masonry. Just like his father, his grandfather, his uncles, and his cousins. In an instant of inspiration, Steve looked at his family and realized this was not his destiny. As he told me, it was not that he was better than his family, but that he thought there was something better for him.

That set him on a search for his own destiny, a way to see the world and meet people with different viewpoints and lifestyles. This twisted path has led to now. Through taking on challenges and growing through them.

Listen in as Steve and I discuss his life, his challenges, and the success of taking on those challenges.

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3 P’s Of Living Engaged

March 4, 2019 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Do you ever that you are “playing small”? That there should be more to life? More for YOU to do in life? More your life should be about?

That life you are thinking about… that is the Engaged Life. Living with more engagement, more depth, more meaning… more purpose.

Over the years, this has been a fairly constant refrain from clients: “There should be more to life than THIS.” There is….

Engaging in life. Being engaged in life.

Living a bit deeper… a bit wider.

Over the years, 3 P’s have emerged as the Path to living an engaged life. Those 3 P’s: Passion, Purpose, and Presence.

When you are focused on building those 3 areas, your Engaged Life builds.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I cover the 3 P’s of Living an Engaged Life. Listen below.

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Your Thrive Toolbox

June 5, 2017 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Having the right tool can make ALL the difference. Ever tried to drive a screw with a hammer? I have. It didn’t go so well.

A few years back, I was changing out some faucets. After stripping the skin off my knuckles and muttering a few choice words, I decided there HAD to be a tool that would help me get those faucets loose.

Turns out there was! Once I had the tool, everything was easier.

The other day, as I was taking my morning walk with Ziggy (my dog), it occurred to me that there were some tools that help you to thrive. You might need these tools in your “thrive toolbox.”

Some are mindset shifts. Others are processes. And others are exercises. They all help you build toward a thriving life.

This week, we launch into a new series on these Thriving Tools. What they are. How to use them. How they help you to thrive.

Listen below.

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