But criticism can be important feedback. And feedback can help us to make changes in ourselves and our habits. They can help us change harmful or unhelpful parts of our lives into more productive and healthy parts.
Which means we have a problem. We don’t like getting criticized. But that criticism might just hold some important information for transformation.
One of the coaches on my staff once remarked on some rather critical feedback from a client, that she had received some “free coaching.” It took a few moments to get away from a defensive reaction and toward a helpful reaction. But my coach made the shift.
First, let me be clear that not all feedback is helpful feedback. Not all feedback needs your attention.
Which raises the question: how do you sift through that feedback to decide what to discard and what to keep? How do you isolate the treasures amidst the trash? These days, there is a lot of trash to sift.
In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I explore a framework from feedback coach, Shanita Williams. Her sifting strategy can help you find the useful and release the useless feedback.