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Rules123 It was interesting to see how much my client seemed to relish her self-diagnosed “issue” when she smilingly told me, “I’m a bit of a control freak. I just want things my way. Mostly because I know how they should be.”

So, I asked that tough question, “How is that working out for you?”

The smile turned to tears as she told me how much pushback she was getting from people. “They just don’t know better,” she assured me, letting me know that she just needed some better ways of getting people to follow her lead (ummm, demands).

My client was making a common mistake. One that leads to misery — on her part and the part of others around her. She was trying to control things she could not. AND she was failing to control things she could.

The desire to control comes from fear. We fear things won’t go well, won’t work out. So, we innocently try to control things… the wrong things.

There are only a few things we can control. But when we switch from trying to control the things we cannot to the things we can, life opens up! Controlling what we can, it turns out, is enough.

In this week’s Thriveology Podcast, I cover another Rule for Living: Control the Things You Can, and Release the Rest. Listen below.

RULES OF LIVING SERIES
#1 Let Fear Point, Not Direct
#2 Be Present In The Present
#3 Accept the Past and Revise the Future

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Have you ever had that moment when you were doing something or saying something, and there was that other voice in your head… the one questioning why? Maybe you already knew you were acting in a way you would not want to, or perhaps you were saying something you knew would be hurtful. But you found yourself doing or saying it anyway….

Your Higher Self was talking. Were you listening?

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, we talk about listening to that Higher Self. It is far more resilient and wise than that other voice, the Ego, that gets our ear (and our actions) lots of times.

But when we make a shift… to that Higher Self… our lives make a shift, too. We make better choices, treat others better (along with ourselves), and work from a place of courage.

This week’s Rule? Listen to your Higher Self. Listen to this episode for more.

RULES OF LIVING SERIES
#1 Let Fear Point, Not Direct
#2 Be Present In The Present
#3 Accept the Past and Revise the Future

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Control What You Can; Release The Rest

Listen To Your Higher Self