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Here’s a concept that trips up many people: Forgiveness.

Oh, sure, you know you should forgive. But you just don’t know if that is the best idea. Maybe you believe you just can’t forget what happened (myth: “forgive and forget”). Or maybe you don’t think that person deserves to be “let off the hook” (also a myth). Or perhaps you don’t want to have anything to do with that person (forgiving and connecting are 2 different things).

In this week’s podcast, I discuss the myths of forgiveness — and how important it is to practice forgiving. And if you need a process to follow on how to forgive, check out this earlier podcast or you can check out this one.

Immutable Laws Of Living Series:
Life Isn’t Fair
Life Has Challenges
Life Isn’t About Happiness
A Thought Is A Thought
Every Perspective Is Limited
Change Is Inevitable
People Do The Best They Can
We ALL Have Fears
Life is YOUR Responsibility
“What Is” IS What Is
Control What You Can (Release The Rest)

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It is an interesting human characteristic that we spend lots of energy trying to rework and change the past — at the same time, we fail to believe we can change our future!

A belief that the future is unchangeable (and actions/inactions that often reveal this hidden belief) is called fatalism. It is a belief that fate is set. The ancient Greeks and Romans believed in the Fates, three women who created the thread of life for each person, measured it out, then cut it, when it was time to die. No beating the fates.

Que sera sera.

“Whatever will be, will be.”

I think I much prefer (please excuse my attempt at translation), Que fuera era. Whatever was, was. That might be “reverse fatalism.” The past has happened and can’t be changed. But we do have some choice about how the future plays out.

We don’t have FULL control of our futures. But we have much more than we often like to claim. And that might be the better focus: changing what we CAN change, what we CAN control.

The past is NOT part of what we can change. The future (starting in the present) holds much more potential.

Join me as I explore this “Reverse Fatalism.”

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Forgive To Live

Can’t Change The Past So Stop Trying