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How NOT To Thrive: Top 5

August 17, 2020 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Over the years, I have tried to learn to thrive. And I have tried to teach others how to thrive… even getting other experts to do the same.

But today, just for a moment, let’s assume you DON’T want to thrive. In fact, you want to… well, do the opposite of thriving! You want to be miserable and live a smaller life. You want to feel stuck and frustrated. (I’m not going to even explain WHY you would want to do that… let’s play a little mental game and pretend you just don’t want to thrive.)

What then?

How would you go about NOT thriving? How would you really make yourself as miserable as possible?

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I start in on my Top 10 List of How NOT To Thrive. I cover 5 top ways to NOT thrive in this episode, and follow up with the other 5 in the next episode.

Why in the world would I do this?

Because if you know how to NOT thrive, then you can NOT do the NOT’s. You can do the opposite, and move toward thriving. It is also a good way to run through the list and see if you find yourself falling into any of the non-thriving traps. They are all around us! And sometimes, we are doing them… not even realizing it.

Listen below for part 1 of How To Guarantee You Don’t Thrive.

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How To Guarantee You DON’T Thrive

August 26, 2019 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Over the years, I have tried to learn to thrive. And I have tried to teach others how to thrive… even getting other experts to do the same.

What then?

How would you go about NOT thriving? How would you really make yourself as miserable as possible?

Why in the world would I do this?

Listen below for part 1 of How To Guarantee You Don’t Thrive.

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What Thriving People Know About Gratitude And Appreciation

July 6, 2015 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Some people seem to just know how to thrive. For the rest of us, we need to learn the skills of thriving.

Today, we discuss one skill easily learned, with incredible impact. And it is one I work to incorporate into my life.

Thrivers practice gratitude and appreciation.

Gratitude is the attitude and mindset of noticing what is right, what is enough, and what is in abundance in our lives. You see, our brains naturally look at the world through scarcity — “I don’t have enough.” But there is another mode, one that switches the brain to love — Gratitude!

When we focus upon and look for the pieces of life for which to be grateful, our brain begins to switch modes. It re-wires to look for more evidence of abundance. And when we show appreciation, we carve out stronger bonds with those around us.

Practicing gratitude leaves you more satisfied and happy, healthier, better connected, less depressed, and less anxious.

And you can practice gratitude in just a few minutes each day!

Learn how in this week’s podcast.

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Anatomy Of An Apology: #13 ThriveNation

February 3, 2014 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. 1 Comment

Have you ever apologized, only to have it backfire on you, the other person even more angry than before? Have you ever had someone apologize to you, but for some reason, it left you feeling more frustrated?

I’ve been there — on both sides! And after watching countless apologies in therapy sessions (some good and some more like a politician’s “apology”), I noted some “rules” to apologies that work. An apology that works is one that a) takes responsibility for actions, and b) leads to reconciliation.

Would you like to know the 4 rules to an effective apology? I cover it in this week’s Thriveology Podcast, the podcast for thrivers.

Take a listen and let me know in the comments area below, what rules did I miss?

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