Emotional Resilience Parenting

The Important Influence On Children

September 11, 2017 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

There are so many influences on kids these days. They are pulled in so many directions. This has always been true. The influences might change, but the fact that outside influences pull at kids is consistent.

In the 1950’s, resilience research started to emerge. It came about because some researchers who were looking at societal ills noticed that some people managed to navigate the same difficulties, and move into normal adulthood.

Once they had examined the societal problems, some researchers turned to the resilient people. They wanted to know why the same problems did not cause the same outcome.

Several factors emerged. One factor is the basis of our discussion today. It is the single, biggest influence on children — and is an essential factor in learning to thrive.

(Here’s a hint — you are a lot closer to it than you think!)

Raising Thriving Children Series
Introduction
Eggs, Balls, And Turtles

Podcast: Play in new window | Download

Subscribe: RSS

Eggs, Balls, And Turtles

September 4, 2017 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Summer has flown by! Here we are, already at Labor Day in the States. That kind of marks the end of summer for many. Most schools are back in session and schedules start to be a wee bit more important. Structure returns.

And parenting may be ratcheted up just a bit.

It’s a great time to be thinking some about your hopes and goals of your parenting. I’m guessing that your hope is NOT to be the rescuer for life. Maybe more like coaching from the sidelines while the kids run their plays.

Or maybe like volunteer turtle patrols.

Know what I mean?

If not, maybe a listen to this week’s podcast will clarify for you. Remember, there are two models of viewing kids: Eggs or Balls. I’m leaning toward balls.

Let’s think about it in this week’s podcast, below.

Raising Thriving Children Series
Introduction

Podcast: Play in new window | Download

Subscribe: RSS

Raising Thriving Children

August 28, 2017 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

If you are a parent, you know that hope/fear. You hope to raise a wonderful human being, and you fear making a mistake on the way.

This week, we begin a series on raising thriving children.

During this series, we will look at the goals of parenting, the limits of parenting, and what a parent can do to help a child learn to thrive. Thriving is not an innate skill. It is learned.

But it can also be lost in the shuffle of life.

I believe there are two paradigms of parenting: children are like eggs or children are like balls.

Since eggs can shatter, they must be protected and insulated. Balls, on the other hand, bounce.

Which model do you see in your own life?

(By the way, if you missed it, I challenged our common understanding of self-confidence just last week. You can learn about that by CLICKING HERE.)

Listen below for the two theories of parenting and an introduction to this new series.

Podcast: Play in new window | Download

Subscribe: RSS