dealing with loss

Healing From Heartbreak

April 1, 2019 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Nada Hogan, healing from heartbreak Life can turn in an instant: a phone call, a letter, a knock on the door. Everything you thought you knew, everything that was “normal” is pulled apart and thrown upside-down.

In that heart-stopping moment, you know life will never be the same. And sometimes, it can feel like life isn’t just changed… but over.

For Nada Hogan, that knock on the door was a pair of police officers. While Nada was trying to figure out what was going on, she noticed that one officer’s badge said “Chaplain.”

Nada’s 18 year old daughter had been killed in an accident.

Her already-stressed life was thrown into a tailspin. Some days, she could barely pull herself out of bed.

Then, she decided to make a change. To honor her daughter, Darah, in living a life of purpose.

One little step at a time, Nada pulled her life back together. She found a connection to something bigger than herself… and eventually, to a purpose bigger than her grief.

Now, Nada helps others move through their heartbreaks to find healing. She starts at the place where you might not even want to get out of bed. She knows that spot! She’s been there.

Join Nada and me as we discuss how to heal after heartbreak.

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Grieve Losses and Celebrate Gains

March 26, 2018 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

The Rules of Living by Lee Baucom

Losses are painful. No way around it. They are also normal. Or to say it differently, loss is a normal part of life. Not an anomalie. Part of being alive.

And loss leads to grief. That is our natural reaction to any loss. Big grief or small grief — that is simply how we process a loss, so that we can re-weave life and continue.

Sometimes, we get caught up in the “unfairness” of a loss, and we get stuck in the grief. In the process, we lose out on life. We fail to celebrate the gains that also are a part of life.

Think of these three stages throughout your life. We have a certain orientation to life — we understand what life is about… until something changes — a loss or a gain. And then, we experience disorientation. The process of grieving and celebrating brings us to a new orientation — a re-orientation. Not the same as before. But not necessarily worse than before. Just different than before.

So, rule #4 is to grieve your losses and celebrate your gains. Listen for details below.

RULES OF LIVING SERIES
#1 Let Fear Point, Not Direct
#2 Be Present In The Present
#3 Accept the Past and Revise the Future

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Dealing With Endings and Beginnings

May 11, 2015 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Life is filled with endings. And beginnings. There is no avoiding the endings. And there is always another beginning.

Some endings are by choice: you decide to leave a job or move to a new town. Some endings give you no choice: someone dies or there is an illness. Others are just what happens by stages: children come along and children depart for their own lives.

Every new opportunity, every new beginning, only comes along because something ended. And whether the ending is by choice or by circumstance, our challenge is to accept, adapt, and move forward.

In this podcast episode, I discuss four ways to move through the ending and four ways to move into the new beginning.

Life is all about change, whether we fight it or embrace it. Change comes. Learn how to end and begin in healthy and helpful ways.

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