“Why don’t they treat me the way I want to be treated?”, my client asked me.
So, I asked, “Have you taught them how to treat you?”
The silence let me know. But after a pause, my client said, “I guess it never crossed my mind I needed to do that.”
The fact is that people do not know how we want to be treated… unless we are clear about how we are to be treated. Otherwise, we get treated the way THEY want to treat US, and not the reverse.
In the end, that leaves people frustrated, defensive, and feeling mistreated.
Your BOUNDARIES are what lets people know how you want to be treated. They are your “NO’s” of life. Things you will not let people do to(wards) you.
If your boundaries are solid, you are already following this rule. But if you find yourself being treated in ways you don’t want to be, time to start following this rule, “Teach others how to treat you.”
Listen to this week’s Thriveology Podcast for yet another Rule for Living.
RULES OF LIVING SERIES
#1 Let Fear Point, Not Direct
#2 Be Present In The Present
#3 Accept the Past and Revise the Future
#4 Grieve Losses and Celebrate Gains
#5 Forgive to Live
#6 Listen to Your Higher Self