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Start Here

April 11, 2022 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

YouAreHere “Where should I start?”, my client asked.

Lots of times, we want to make changes, we want things to be different. And sometimes, we want things to be different before we make any changes.

We want a different starting point.

If you’ve ever been at a park or mall, looking at the map to figure out where to go, you might notice that one very important feature, “You Are Here.” It points to the spot where you are now.

Not where you want to go. Not where you want to be.

But where you are.

If you are at the mall and see the store you want… on the other side of the mall, you might wish you were standing nearby, near the destination store. Not all the way across the mall.

But if you are on the other side of the mall, that is where you are. Navigating to the destination from a closer point — a point where you are NOT — is not likely to be effective.

You start where you are.

And you might just find… it is a pretty good place to start.

Listen to this podcast episode for how to start where you are, and why where you are is a pretty good place to start.

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Accepting What Is
Limiting Beliefs
Making Changes
Book: The Immutable Laws of Living

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From “If” to “Is”

March 29, 2021 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

At the beginning of my career, I was a hospital chaplain. One of my tasks was to help people accept what was going on… to accept the diagnosis, the outcome of an accident or tragedy, to accept the changes. Interestingly, many times, it seemed that those wanting the person to “accept” were really looking for resignation. Kind of giving up.

I think our understanding of acceptance has expanded since then. But that doesn’t make it any easier.

You see, we all want some “alternate reality,” some different space where things didn’t, aren’t, or won’t happen. Where we get to choose to undo/redo, or not do what we don’t like. The alternate reality where things happened or happen or will happen differently.

Except they don’t. They happened as they did. They are happening as they are. And they will happen as they will.

Yes, we have some control about what we do in this moment, and what we will do to move toward the next. But not enough to create our alternate reality where we get to choose everything (we do get to choose our own response, though).

There are 3 “If’s” we play out in our mind. One shift matters, if we want to thrive. The shift to “Is.”

I unpack what that is about and talk about how we can make the shift in this episode of the Thriveology Podcast.

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How to Engage in Life

August 10, 2020 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Wow! What a time in history, right? A pandemic rages. Division is pulling us apart. Sometimes, it seems easier just to crawl under a rock and hide.

But hiding isn’t the solution. And you have more to offer than hiding. You are built to engage the world, to make a difference.

Then why do we “play small”? When there should be more to life? More for YOU to do in life? More your life should be about?

That life you are thinking about… that is the Engaged Life. Living with more engagement, more depth, more meaning… more purpose.

Over the years, this has been a fairly constant refrain from clients: “There should be more to life than THIS.” There is….

Engaging in life. Being engaged in life.

Living a bit deeper… a bit wider.

Over the years, 3 P’s have emerged as the Path to living an engaged life. Those 3 P’s: Passion, Purpose, and Presence.

When you are focused on building those 3 areas, your Engaged Life builds.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I cover the 3 P’s of Living an Engaged Life. Listen below.

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3 P’s Of Living Engaged

March 4, 2019 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Do you ever that you are “playing small”? That there should be more to life? More for YOU to do in life? More your life should be about?

That life you are thinking about… that is the Engaged Life. Living with more engagement, more depth, more meaning… more purpose.

Over the years, this has been a fairly constant refrain from clients: “There should be more to life than THIS.” There is….

Engaging in life. Being engaged in life.

Living a bit deeper… a bit wider.

Over the years, 3 P’s have emerged as the Path to living an engaged life. Those 3 P’s: Passion, Purpose, and Presence.

When you are focused on building those 3 areas, your Engaged Life builds.

In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I cover the 3 P’s of Living an Engaged Life. Listen below.

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Meaning and Purpose in Life
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Book: Thrive Principles

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Where You Are (is a pretty good place to start)

January 28, 2019 by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

YouAreHere “Where should I start?”, my client asked.

Lots of times, we want to make changes, we want things to be different. And sometimes, we want things to be different before we make any changes.

We want a different starting point.

If you’ve ever been at a park or mall, looking at the map to figure out where to go, you might notice that one very important feature, “You Are Here.” It points to the spot where you are now.

Not where you want to go. Not where you want to be.

But where you are.

If you are at the mall and see the store you want… on the other side of the mall, you might wish you were standing nearby, near the destination store. Not all the way across the mall.

But if you are on the other side of the mall, that is where you are. Navigating to the destination from a closer point — a point where you are NOT — is not likely to be effective.

You start where you are.

And you might just find… it is a pretty good place to start.

Listen to this podcast episode for how to start where you are, and why where you are is a pretty good place to start.

RELATED RESOURCES
Accepting What Is
Limiting Beliefs
Making Changes
Book: The Immutable Laws of Living

Podcast: Play in new window | Download

Subscribe: RSS