Losses are painful. No way around it. They are also normal. Or to say it differently, loss is a normal part of life. Not an anomalie. Part of being alive.
And loss leads to grief. That is our natural reaction to any loss. Big grief or small grief — that is simply how we process a loss, so that we can re-weave life and continue.
Sometimes, we get caught up in the “unfairness” of a loss, and we get stuck in the grief. In the process, we lose out on life. We fail to celebrate the gains that also are a part of life.
Think of these three stages throughout your life. We have a certain orientation to life — we understand what life is about… until something changes — a loss or a gain. And then, we experience disorientation. The process of grieving and celebrating brings us to a new orientation — a re-orientation. Not the same as before. But not necessarily worse than before. Just different than before.
So, rule #4 is to grieve your losses and celebrate your gains. Listen for details below.