The Appreciation Approach

Tools to Thrive Series

The Appreciation ApproachYour brain is really only capable of being in one of two modes:  fear/threat or love/appreciation. Unfortunately, the fear/threat mode is pretty much the default and automatic.

Fortunately, changing to manual and shifting to love/appreciation is not complicated.

More than that, there is plenty of research to point to the specific benefits of that shift:

  • Better emotional health,
  • Higher pain tolerance,
  • Higher sociability,
  • Greater life satisfaction,
  • More sleep,
  • More exercise,
  • etc., etc., etc.

There really isn’t much of a downside to gratitude and appreciation.  It just requires a shift in habits to get there.

Got 10 minutes or so per day, just for the next month?  YOU can build your appreciation/gratitude  toolkit and add it to your Thriving Toolbox.

Tools of Thriving Series
Introduction
Thought Awareness
Only Control What You Can

The Responsibility Formula
The Perspective Shift
Your Built-In Importance Indicator
The Importance Matrix

Habiting Your Goals

Thriving Habits Series

Stop making goals and start building habits that move you to your goals.We like to make goals.  Most of us start the year with a set of goals.  And most goals, certainly most resolutions, never quite make it.  Goals are “out there,” some deadline in the future. Resolutions may start now, but rarely do they make it into habit.

Think about goals as an end result of your systems and habits.  If you just set goals, they will always be “out there.”  But if you create systems (your environment) and habits (repeated actions), you move toward the goals.

Goals are fine.  But only when supported by your systems and habits.

Learn more in this week’s podcast.  You can listen below.

Habit Series:
You Become Your Habits
Habit Sticking

The Thrive Principles Simplified

Today is a big day for me.  It is the release date for my new book, Thrive Principles.  This book is near and dear to my heart.  I have lived with it for years, collecting and developing the strategies throughout my career.

The fifteen strategies can help you build a thriving life, regardless of what is going on in your life.  Tough times or easy times, we can all thrive throughout life.

Please check out my new baby at the book’s website RIGHT HERE.

The Thrive Principles SimplifiedSince I have spent a great deal of time thinking about these principles, I have come to understand how intertwined the principles are.  In fact, I have realized that you don’t have to focus on all 15.  Choose a few.  The others will almost naturally come through.

A coaching client challenged me, “Can you boil it down?  Make it stupid-simple.”

So I did.  But I wanted to be clear, “Simple” does not equal “Easy.”  If someone wants an easy way to thrive. . . it doesn’t exist.  In fact, taking the easy way is how many people suffer and stay stuck.

What I discovered in coaching was focusing on two pieces is the core of it all:
1)  Personal Responsibility
2) Meaning/Purpose/Impact Triad

Put your focus there and you thrive.  The other principles serve as clarifying and support strategies.

I cover these two pieces in today’s podcast below.

In the meantime, please CHECK OUT MY NEW BOOK HERE.

“Commit!”

"Commit," my friend called to me in the surf.It happened long ago, in what feels like another life.  And the story I tell is absolutely true (as far as I absolutely remember it happening this way!).  I promise accuracy, as far as my memory is capable.

Early in my college life, my rather foolish young man’s brain thought it made sense to drive to the beach, toward a pending hurricane. . . and surf!  I will readily admit that if my kids checked in with me about their plans, I would urge them to reconsider.  And likely knowing this would also be true in my case, I did not check in with my parents.

Not surprisingly, we were able to find a good room for cheap.  It would appear that all the traffic we saw going the other way, as we headed to the coast, were those leaving behind rooms.

In my own defense, this was in the day when people would ride out a storm, proudly buying an “I survived Hurricane ______” t-shirt.

I don’t have a t-shirt, but I did learn a lesson.  I apply it every single day, as I strive to thrive.

Can I tell you my little story?  Listen below. . .

(I mentioned my new book.  Please Check It Out HERE!)

Moving Through My Midlife

Midlife Transition Series

Moving through MY midlife.Yep, MY midlife.  Because I find myself at midlife (maybe, even probably, beyond “midpoint,” but in the midst of midlife).

I thought that since I have been discussing midlife transitions and crises, I needed to be open about my own midlife issues and transitions.  While not a crisis, it is definitely a transition.

Let me be clear that I don’t believe I should in any way be a model of how to do this (or how NOT to do this).  But I do think it may be helpful to hear from someone else who is going through this.

It turns out that many people think what they are feeling is unique to them — and that is just NOT so.  Midlife is a transition.  And it CAN become a crisis.

Here’s how it has been for me. . .

MID LIFE TRANSITION SERIES
4 Myths of a Mid Life Crisis
The Heart Of A Midlife Crisis
A Healthy Midlife Transition
Midlife Crisis or Depression?

The Heart Of A Midlife Crisis

Mid Life Transformation Series

The heart of a midlife crisis: MeaningMost people slide right into midlife, out of breath from exertion.  Up until then, it is all about achieve.  What can I do, build, and achieve?  Then, something shifts.  It is about believe.  What do I believe?  What’s important?  What will I leave as my legacy?

And that is the heart of a midlife crisis.  Meaning becomes a dominant theme, often covered up by the fumblings of someone not used to that question.

Many people at midlife feel a yearning, but they can’t quite identify what they are yearning for.  That yearning is the deeper call of meaning.

I cover the Heart of  a Midlife Crisis in this week’s podcast.

MID LIFE TRANSFORMATION SERIES
4 Myths of A Mid Life Crisis

Putting It All Together: Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Your Thiving Body Series Wrap-Up:  Putting It All Together.There is one reason I shared the Thriving Body Series:  so you can build a thriving body.  I have noticed that we live in a culture of body-shaming or body-ignoring.  We live in a world focused on “what you look like,” compared to some ideal created by media.  So, many people feel inadequate — leading to giving up or dysfunctional lifestyles.

Others simply pretend they don’t inhabit a body.  That is no better.  People act as if their physical body doesn’t count, ignoring the fact that their body is what takes them through life in this world.

What if the focus was on being healthy and well?  As well as possible, and healthy as possible, given the limits of each person’s own body.  Might that be a better “third way?”

During this series, I tried to focus on some big rubrics of a thriving body:  eating to nourish that body, exercising to build that body, resting to recharge that body, de-stressing to reduce the wear-and-tear on the body.

Now, we wrap the series up.  Let’s put it together and build a thriving body, so you can have a thriving life!

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Fueling You Thriving Body, Pt. 2

Moving Your Thriving Body
Resting Your Thriving Body
Calming Your Thriving Body

Resting Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Resting your thriving body.  How to get the sleep you need to thrive.Do you get the rest you (and your body) need?  Most people don’t.

Research on sleep reveals that almost 50% of people say they do not get enough sleep.

And your body takes a toll for this.  Slower healing, chronic disease, fuzzy thinking, physical decline, and even weight gain, all have been tied to a lack of adequate sleep.

Here is the painful truth:  if you are skipping on sleep, you are most likely just borrowing that time from the end of your life.  The more chronic your sleeplessness, the higher your chances of suffering from sleep-related health issues.

So, let’s talk about why you need sleep and how to get it.  And how to better quality sleep, the you do sleep.

Listen below to hear about how to rest your thriving body (and you can catch up on the Thriving Body Series in the links below).

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Fueling You Thriving Body, Pt. 2

Moving Your Thriving Body

 

 

Fueling Your Thriving Body, Part 2 – Your Questions Answered

Your Thriving Body Series

Part 2 of fueling your thriving body.  Answering your questions.Two podcasts ago, I covered fueling your thriving body (how to eat to thrive).

That raised some questions.  So this week, I answer your questions.

Let’s talk some more about the best sources for energy when you are fueling that thriving body.

And I can tell you some more of the reasons I have chosen the approach I follow.

It may not fit for you.  But just last night, I was chatting with several people who adopted my strategy when they saw the changes in my life.  To a person, they have become healthier and more resilient.  Several were able to drop prescriptions.  Several reported having symptoms disappear — things that had kept them from being active and involved (thriving, I would say).

Listen below for the 2nd part of Fueling Your Thriving Body.

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Moving Your Thriving Body

Moving Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Moving your thriving body: Exercise.We addressed how to fuel your thriving body (how to eat) last week.  That is a fundamental building block of a thriving body.

But what about building that thriving body?  That is all about exercise.

I look for the M.E.D. (Minimally Effective Dosage) of exercise.  What is the minimum you need to do, in order to get your body in shape?

It takes FAR less time than you might imagine.  In fact, many people OVER-exercise and miss the mark of building a thriving body.  They end up tearing it down, all in the effort of building it up.  (I see this mistake all the time.)

If you are wanting to get started, but can’t imagine fitting one more thing into your day, how about as little as 7 minutes?

Let’s talk about what to do to build your thriving body.  Listen below.

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body