We ALL Have Fears!

Immutable Law Of Living Series

We ALL Have Fears:  Immutable Law of LivingFear is wired into our brain.  And there isn’t any way to unwire it!

Which is probably for the best.  Sometimes, fear keeps you from doing something foolish.  It helps to keep you alive.

But it can also keep you stuck.

In many coaching sessions, I ask, “Why didn’t you do that very important thing you know you need to do in order to have a better life, a thriving life?” (OK, I usually condense that to asking why they didn’t do X, whatever X was.)

And the #1 most common response?

“Because I was afraid!”

Fear does not serve us well when it holds us back.

(Here’s a little secret:  we ALL have fears.  What you do about them determines whether you are thriving or stuck.  Your choice.  Listen below for some help.)

Oh, and here are the links to the other episodes in the Immutable Laws of Living Series:

Immutable Laws Of Living Series:
Life Isn’t Fair
Life Has Challenges
Life Isn’t About Happiness
A Thought Is A Thought
Every Perspective Is Limited
Change Is Inevitable
People Do The Best They Can

4 Steps To Changing Your Limiting Beliefs

Unstuck Series

Here's how to change your limiting beliefs and get unstuck.Within you, lurking just below the surface, there are some beliefs that are limiting you.  Your Limiting Beliefs influence your thoughts and your perspective.  They mold your paradigm and keep you held hostage.

You can break free from those beliefs.  You don’t have to be held hostage.  There is a simple 4-step process that will allow you to defeat and destroy those beliefs, once and for all.

Here are the 4 C’s steps:

C-onscious
C-hallenge
C-hange
C-ommit

And once you know the secret to uncovering the beliefs, you just apply the steps, one-by-one.  The limiting beliefs dissipate, replaced by your aspirational beliefs.

Try them out and tell me what you think!

GETTING UNSTUCK SERIES
Intro To Getting Unstuck
How You Get Stuck
You Are Not As Stuck As You Think
Give Up Your Goals & Get Unstuck
Loops
Shift Your Perspective
When Fear Has You Stuck
The KNAC Protocol For Getting Unstuck

Anchored or Stuck? “Anchors Aweigh!”

Part of the Getting Unstuck Series

Are you anchored or are you stuck?Are you anchored, waiting for the next opportunity to sail?  Or are you stuck?

Sometimes, we have to set anchor for a bit, let the tide change, wait for a storm to pass, or wait for a new day.

Sometimes, we set the anchor so well that we end up stuck.

Time to weigh anchor and depart.  Time to seek the next port.

Let me suggest three A’s to help you weigh anchor and get sailing:

A- Acceptance

A- Awe

A- Appreciation

No need to stay stuck.  Grab the tools you need and anchors aweigh!

When Fear Has You Stuck. . .

Getting Unstuck Series: Don't Let Fear Keep You Stuck

Don't let fear keep you stuck.Fear.  It hits us all.  And I’m not talking about a “fright,” a startle from something around you.  But fear.  True fear.

We all have it.  But it doesn’t have to keep you stuck.

The real problem is our relationship with fear.  We learn to avoid fear — and the things that provoke fear.

In fact, it is not the thing, but our thoughts and avoidance of even feeling the fear, that keeps us stuck.

Too many times, people will mention something they want to do, then continue with why that can’t because of a fear.

It is as if the fear has some power to stop the dreams, the hopes, the aspirations.  The only power the fear has is the power we give it.

The antidote?  Courage.  Action.  Courageous action.

Here’s how:

You Are NOT As Stuck As You Feel

Getting Unstuck Series

You are not as stuck as you think!Stuck.  We all feel it sometimes.  We can’t get ourselves in gear, out of our own way, moving in the right direction, or even moving at all.

There are some reasons we get stuck.  But I truly believe we are never quite as stuck as we feel.

When I feel stuck, it is sometimes helpful for me to remind myself of why I am not quite as stuck as I feel.  When I do that, I get a little momentum.

A little momentum is what I need to begin the process of getting unstuck.

And after you listen to the podcast, you will realize:  you have LOTS of momentum.  LOTS is changing. . . if you are looking.

Introduction To Getting Unstuck Series

How You Get Stuck

Get Unstuck Series, Ep. 2

How you get stuck:  4 reasons we all get stuck, why and how.We all have those times when we feel stuck.  And we tend to get stuck for the same few reasons:

  1. The Past
  2. Limiting Beliefs
  3. Lack of Clarity
  4. Fear

Sometimes, we stay anchored in the past, to the old stories and old scripts — and we don’t even realize it.

Other times, we carry around limiting beliefs about what is even possible.  We don’t tap into the possibilities and potentials, but fall into believing our own limited perspective.  We believe the self-imposed limits.

And still other times, we just don’t know what to do.  We stand at the fork(s) in the road, not sure which to choose.  So, we fail to choose.

And many times, fear keeps us stuck.  We fear the unknown, fear change, fear failure, and even fear success.

Let’s explore those reasons we get stuck, and begin to get un-stuck.

Grab a pencil and paper!  I have a little exercise for you to do!

PREVIOUS UNSTUCK:
Intro To Unstuck

 

Curiosity And That Cat: Killer or Thriver?

Curiosity did not kill the cat.  It helped the cat to thrive!Does “curiosity kill the cat?”  Hardly.  In fact, that is a mis-quote.

The actual quote is “care killed the cat.”  And that is probably MUCH more accurate these days!

Yet that same phrase about curiosity and death has been used to shut down the curiosity of many children and adults.

Too bad.  I would argue that curiosity is a cornerstone of a thriving life.  It leads us to new and different places.  It pushes us to take on challenges and to learn new things.  It stretches us beyond the current stuck place.

Curiosity is central to thriving MORE in life.  If you have forgotten how to be curious, listen in as we discuss just how important your curiosity can be.

That Story You Are Telling Yourself? IT’S A LIE! (probably): #31 Thrive Nation Podcast

Make your story a good one!Yesterday, I told a lie.  To myself.

We all do it.  Everyday.

Here is the sad part:  the lies we tell ourselves are hurtful and limiting.  They keep us stuck and keep us feeling bad.

So why do we keep telling them?  Because they originate in some beliefs we hold, mostly about ourselves.  All we need is something to trigger the beliefs.  Some event happens and we suddenly start filling in the blanks, based on those beliefs.

Let’s say you are walking down the street and see someone looking your way.  The person is laughing.  That is the event.

You may think to yourself, “Isn’t that cool?  That person is having a good time and found something funny!”

Or you could say, “Why is that person laughing at me?  Is my hair looking funny?  Do my clothes look bad?”

Unless you go and ask the person why the person is laughing, you will never know which (or even another) story is right.  But the first story will leave you feeling upbeat, perhaps even looking for something humorous.  The second story will have you running to a mirror, feeling insecure, and wondering why that person is so mean.

The stories we tell impact how we feel, which impacts how we act.

Fortunately, there is a simple exercise you can do that will help you challenge your story, change your beliefs, feel differently, and have a different response.  That exercise is as easy as ABCDE.

Learn about this exercise in this week’s podcast — and let me tell you about the story I told myself this weekend!  Ouch!

Let me know what you think.  Leave a comment below!

Grill That Sacred Cow! — Innovate: #18 Thriveology Podcast

Don't let the Sacred Cow keep you stuck.  Innovate.Perhaps it is that feeling of Spring, and my grill waiting for me.  But I have been thinking about Sacred Cows — those ideas, principles, choices, and actions that are not questionable.  They keep us stuck.

And they head us for trouble.  When something becomes the “Sacred Cow” in our life, family, relationships, or business, our potential for growth is stymied.

Eventually, what was sacred only keeps us stuck.

In this week’s podcast, we look at the cycle of innovation that leads to stagnation:
1)  Innovation

2)  Tradition

3)  Sacred Cow

And we look at how to change that.  I offer five ways to make sure you don’t get stuck.

Let me know what you think!