We ALL Have Fears!

Immutable Law Of Living Series

We ALL Have Fears:  Immutable Law of LivingFear is wired into our brain.  And there isn’t any way to unwire it!

Which is probably for the best.  Sometimes, fear keeps you from doing something foolish.  It helps to keep you alive.

But it can also keep you stuck.

In many coaching sessions, I ask, “Why didn’t you do that very important thing you know you need to do in order to have a better life, a thriving life?” (OK, I usually condense that to asking why they didn’t do X, whatever X was.)

And the #1 most common response?

“Because I was afraid!”

Fear does not serve us well when it holds us back.

(Here’s a little secret:  we ALL have fears.  What you do about them determines whether you are thriving or stuck.  Your choice.  Listen below for some help.)

Oh, and here are the links to the other episodes in the Immutable Laws of Living Series:

Immutable Laws Of Living Series:
Life Isn’t Fair
Life Has Challenges
Life Isn’t About Happiness
A Thought Is A Thought
Every Perspective Is Limited
Change Is Inevitable
People Do The Best They Can

The KNAC Protocol To Help You Get Unstuck

From the Getting Unstuck Series

Follow the KNAC Protocol to get to true change.You here it all the time: “Knowledge is power.”

Not true.  Knowledge is just information.  Perhaps it is information that is digested and understood.  But it is still information.

For knowledge to be power, something else needs to be applied:  Action.  Action, based on knowledge, then becomes power.

But here’s the hook:  Action that is important is always accompanied by fear.  If there is no fear, it is routine, normal, and just an action.  If you are stuck, you are probably stuck because you know you need to go to the next step, and the next step is scary.

So, you need Courage.  Courage is from the heart, facing fear, and taking action.  It is not action with no fear.  Any action taken, in spite of fear, shows courage.

Together, the KNAC Protocol helps you to guide yourself through change, and helps you to get unstuck.

Listen below to master the KNAC Protocol.

(And here are links to the earlier segments of this series:)
Intro To Getting Unstuck
How You Get Stuck
You Are Not As Stuck As You Think
Give Up Your Goals & Get Unstuck

Loops
Shift Your Perspective
When Fear Has You Stuck
Anchored Or Stuck?

When Fear Has You Stuck. . .

Getting Unstuck Series: Don't Let Fear Keep You Stuck

Don't let fear keep you stuck.Fear.  It hits us all.  And I’m not talking about a “fright,” a startle from something around you.  But fear.  True fear.

We all have it.  But it doesn’t have to keep you stuck.

The real problem is our relationship with fear.  We learn to avoid fear — and the things that provoke fear.

In fact, it is not the thing, but our thoughts and avoidance of even feeling the fear, that keeps us stuck.

Too many times, people will mention something they want to do, then continue with why that can’t because of a fear.

It is as if the fear has some power to stop the dreams, the hopes, the aspirations.  The only power the fear has is the power we give it.

The antidote?  Courage.  Action.  Courageous action.

Here’s how:

Fear Life or Fierce Life?

Live the fierce life! Not the fear life.I used to wish for a fearless life.  You know, that place where you no longer have fears.  Only confidence and drive.

Don’t get me wrong.  I don’t want to live a life of fear, held back by fears and concerns.

I just no longer believe that a “fearless” life is possible.  Fear is too important and too deeply embedded in us.

In fact, I want to have some fear around.  Something needs to make me pause and say, “Is this safe?  Should I be doing this?”

And more importantly, for a full life, I need fear to point out the important areas and important directions.  As I have stated in other trainings and podcasts, fear is NOT an “Avoidance Indicator.”  It is an “Importance Indicator.”  Fear serves to point out when something is important.  It may be of safety importance, or it could be of epic importance.

If the goal is not “fearless living,” then what is the goal?

Fierce Living.

Living fiercely.  Focused, clear, intentional, and courageous.

How do you make the shift?  Listen in to this week’s training.

And then, live fiercely!

PREVIOUS PODCASTS IN THE FEAR SERIES
The Other Side Of Fear
3 Myths of Fear
4 Steps to Taming Your Fear
Worry Less, Live More
2 Magic Questions To Live Beyond Fear

3 Myths of Fear

3 myths of fear.Fear.  Does it get in your way?  Do you believe the myths of fear?

Those myths keep you stuck.  Fear becomes the jailor of your life, not the friend it pretends to be.

If you want to get to the other side of fear, you need to know the myths of fear.  Let’s talk about the 3 big ones in this week’s Thriveology Podcast.

Will you get rid of your fears?  No.  But that isn’t the goal, and isn’t even necessary.

It IS necessary to understand the myths, and then move beyond the fears the the life you want and deserve.

New Series: The Other Side of Fear

The Other Side of Fear.We start a new series for Thriveology Podcast:  The Other Side of Fear.

Over the years, countless clients have said the same thing.  First, they would tell me of some dream, some goal, some hope, they wanted to attain.  I would then ask, “Why haven’t you started?”

And the answer was always the same, “I’m too scared to start.”

They wanted to stop feeling fear.

My goal was a bit different.  It was to get them to be able to say, “I’m scared, AND I am getting started.”

Fear.  It is one of those inevitables of life.  Many people assume that there is some group of people out there who are successful BECAUSE they have no fear.  In reality, successful people have gotten there DESPITE their fears.

They have the same fears that everyone does.  They have simply taken the next step, and begun to act.

Let’s take a look at the other side of fear, where all your dreams are!

Be Courageous: What Thrivers Know

Be courageous.Are you courageous?  If you are like most people I know, you will tell me you are not.  “Not me,” you will say, “I am too afraid to be courageous.”

I would remind you that if you are afraid, you are half-way to courage.  The only element missing is acting.

If you do something and are not at all fearful, then that is just doing something (and likely not anything particularly important).

But if you are feeling fear, and you choose to take action anyway, then you have acted courageously.  More than that, you are probably doing something important.

Too often, we use fear as an “avoidance indicator.”  Really, it is an “importance indicator.”  What is most important to you likely exists just on the other side of your fears.  Act in that direction.  Be courageous.

Listen to learn how.

 

Finding Your Hero Within: #39 Thriveology Podcast

Tony Edgell PicDo you believe there is something heroic within you?  Is there a place of bravery within you, calling you to a higher purpose and a place of meaning?

My guest today is speaker and auther, Tony Edgell.  Tony is a self-described “former bully.”  Tony told me he was a bully in school — an extension of the treatment he received himself at home.

Then, Tony graduated to bar fights.  Still, Tony was responding to the hurt from his past.  Tony was still caught by the hurt in his own life, completely disconnected from his heart.

One day, Tony says he took a long look “at the man in the mirror,” and realized he needed to change.  Tony stopped believing the world required him to respond in angry ways.  Tony found he no longer had to defend himself from threats that were never there.

It was then that Tony came to understand Gandhi’s famous quote,

Be the change you wish to see in the world.

The Hero Inside You coverSoon, Tony was discovering a new path for himself.  Tony found himself called to help the rest of the world move from injury and hurt to growth and bravery.

According to Tony, this is the path of discovering your internal hero, the hero within.

Join me as Tony and I discuss the hurts of life and how they leave us limping, and how we often work from our place of hurt.  But more importantly, Tony and I discuss how to work from your place of “heart.”

Discover your hero within, find your purpose and power, and become the person you were meant to be!

Visit Tony Edgell at his website and grab his free video.

Find his book, The Hero Inside You at Amazon.

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