Rule 12: It’s never too late to be what you might have been.

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Rule 12: It’s never too late to be what you might have been.

By LBaucom on Wednesday, June 3rd, 2009 | No Comments

“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” — George Elliot this is one of my favorite quotes. He reminds me that we are never finished developing into who we want to be. Who we are becoming is a constantly changing and developing piece. We are always growing, changing, and becoming more [...]

Rule 11: Separate your internal worth from your external worth.

By LBaucom on Wednesday, April 15th, 2009 | No Comments

Who are you? What are you worth? That is the question of this rule. Too often, we confuse our wealth with our worth. Or more importantly, we confuse our possessions with our worth. Secondarily, we confuse our role with our worth. Now, just for fun, let’s look at what we are REALLY worth, meaning how [...]

Rule 9: Mistakes Don’t Matter

By LBaucom on Wednesday, February 25th, 2009 | No Comments

OK, let me say just a bit more: “Mistakes don’t matter. How you deal with them does.” You see, we often get so caught up in fearing that we will make a mistake that we don’t stretch. We stop ourselves before we even begin, or we freeze up in the midst of trying, all because [...]

Rule 8: Ask “What’s The BEST That Can Happen?”

By LBaucom on Monday, February 16th, 2009 | No Comments

In the last rule, I proposed that the question “what’s the worst that could happen?” can be a useful “reality check” when fear grabs and limits you. This rule goes from the opposite end. My wife brought this question to my attention, and even if I tease her (when my son said he was nervous [...]

Rule 7: Ask “What’s The Worst That Can Happen?”

By LBaucom on Thursday, February 12th, 2009 | No Comments

Today, the question that can help you challenge your fears when thinking about doing something. You see, fear pretends to befriend and protect us. So it whispers into our ear all kinds of thoughts about not doing something because “something could go wrong.” But in actuality, there isn’t much fact behind the images of utter [...]

Rule 6: You Get To Choose Your Response To Fear — Unhealthy Responses

By LBaucom on Friday, January 23rd, 2009 | No Comments

We have established that fear is a given. We cannot get rid of it. We can only decide whether or not fear will run our lives. And we can decide how we will respond. But what if you find yourself constantly in the grips of fear? There are two basic approachs to life that are [...]

Rule 5: We All Have Some Basic Fears

By LBaucom on Monday, January 19th, 2009 | No Comments

We share fear with every living creature. The difference is that we are able to add emotion and thought to the feelings. Sure, some animals are capable of emotions –anger in particular. But as far as we know, no other animal reflects on their fears. Because we are thinking creatures, we take a fear and [...]

Quotes About Fear

By LBaucom on Thursday, January 15th, 2009 | No Comments

Quotes on Dealing With Fear: A ship in harbor is safe — but that is not what ships are for. –John A. Shedd Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear. –Mark Twain Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be [...]

Rule 4: Fear Is A Fact Of Life

By LBaucom on Thursday, January 15th, 2009 | No Comments

Fear is a fact of life. We may as well get used to it. I say that because we all spend an inordinate amount of energy avoiding fear. For what? We still feel it. In fact, very often when we avoid fear, we really only grow that fear. Let me be clear: I am not [...]

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