Thrivers Care For Themselves

ThriversCareForSelvesYears ago, I was learning all I could about resilience, personal development, and how to thrive.

I forgot one very important element:  my physical health.  My body, it would seem, I just left out of the equation.

My body did send me a loud “wake up call.”  When the doctor told my wife I was headed for disability and eventual death, due to a diagnosis he had made, I woke up.

Well, to be honest, it still took me several months.  During those months, I was just struggling to move forward, one plodding foot at a time.  But about 4 months in, I was starting to get better — and realize I was NOT where I needed to be, physically.

As I discovered, it was my body that needed to cart around my thriving mind.  And, in fact, it was much easier for my mind to be thriving when my body was thriving.

Let me be clear:  this is not about being in optimal, ready-for-magazine cover, shape.  It is about taking care of your body, so that you can truly thrive.  We all have a different level of what is possible.  For most of us, though, there is room for improvement.

Learn about the 4 areas I recommend, and the very simple recommendations I make in this week’s podcast.

What Thrivers Do To Raise Their Personal Standards

Raise your personal standards.What do you expect of yourself?  What are those traits in yourself that you think are crucial?  Those attributes you treasure?

Those are your Standards.  They mark what you expect of yourself, what you expect to live up to.

Last week, I discussed boundaries.  Boundaries are the “No’s” to others, “no, you can’t treat me that way.”

Standards are “Yes’s” to yourself, “yes, I will live my life that way.”  For example, “yes, I will be honest with others.”  Or “yes, I will be loyal to my friends.”  Or “yes, I will live up to my commitments.”

Thrivers know to define their Personal Standards.  But more than that, thrivers know they can raise their Standards — live them out to a higher and higher degree.

How about you?  Do you know your Standards?  Can you live them to a higher level?

What Thrivers Do To Set Boundaries

Set and maintain clear boundaries.Your line in the sand.  Your personal fence line.  It is when you say “No.”  They are boundaries.

We all have limits.  People make demands upon us or treat us poorly, and we must all decide our limits.

Unfortunately, many people feel guilty for setting a boundary.  Saying “No” makes many people feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, demanding, or somehow unacceptable.

But if you can’t say “No,” you can’t really say “Yes.”

Having clear boundaries — setting them and maintaining them — teaches others how to treat us.  And when we teach others how to treat us, we get to focus on what is important to us.  Not just what others want you to find important, but what YOU find important.

Let’s talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, what to avoid, and how to maintain them.

 

What Thrivers Do To Nurture Spirituality

NurtureSpiritualityWe all know it:  there is an essence deep within.  There is something that calls us to a higher place, a deeper perspective, a need for purpose.

Thrivers know they must nurture and protect their sense of spirituality.  That is the essence within each of us.

When we speak of spirituality, some people get a bit nervous.  Some even react with anger.  Some claim there is nothing there.  Many confuse it with religion.

I believe that this essence within us is quite obvious.  We are drawn toward meaning.  We experience moments of amazement and awe.  We become aware, even briefly, of how each of us are connected to everything else.

Those glimpses, those moments, are experienced by us. . . and then we try to rationalize it or distance from it.  But it is there.  Like it or not, it is there.

People who thrive know this and accept it.  More than that, thrivers work to nurture their spirituality — not their religion, but their spirituality.

Here is why it is important, and how to do it.

 

What Thriving People Know About Gratitude And Appreciation

What Thrivers Know About Gratitude And AppreciationSome people seem to just know how to thrive.  For the rest of us, we need to learn the skills of thriving.

Today, we discuss one skill easily learned, with incredible impact.  And it is one I work to incorporate into my life.

Thrivers practice gratitude and appreciation.

Gratitude is the attitude and mindset of noticing what is right, what is enough, and what is in abundance in our lives.  You see, our brains naturally look at the world through scarcity — “I don’t have enough.”  But there is another mode, one that switches the brain to love — Gratitude!

When we focus upon and look for the pieces of life for which to be grateful, our brain begins to switch modes.  It re-wires to look for more evidence of abundance.  And when we show appreciation, we carve out stronger bonds with those around us.

Practicing gratitude leaves you more satisfied and happy, healthier, better connected, less depressed, and less anxious.

And you can practice gratitude in just a few minutes each day!

Learn how in this week’s podcast.

What Thriving People Do To Show Up

Show UP to life!Think about 2 types of people.  First, there are the ones that trudge through the day, waiting for the next thing.  They may have a conversation with you, but nobody is really there.  They are a bit vacant and distant.  Often, their eyes are a bit dull.

The second group of people seem to embrace the day — this moment. . .  this moment. . . this moment. . . .

When you speak with them, they are listening, hanging onto your words, eyes twinkling and flashing.

That second group of people?  They are Showing Up.  They are present in the present.

Where do you place yourself?  Which group do you fit into?  Which group would you like to be MORE like?

Thrivers are the ones that Show Up to life.  Learn how thrivers do it, and how anyone can do it more and more.

What Thriving People Know About Assuming Responsibility

Assume 100% responsibility for your life.That word, “responsibility,” is such a loaded term.  I immediately go back to childhood, where some adult was saying, “who’s responsible for this mess?”

What they were really asking was, “Who’s fault is this?”

And nobody wants to be blamed.  So, everyone sits quietly.

Perhaps a better question would be, “Who will take responsibility for fixing this?”

Who did it?  Often, it doesn’t matter.  Who will deal with it?  Usually, in your life, it is YOU.

The word, “Responsibility,” is really “Ability to Respond.”  We all have it.  But Thrivers accept responsibility for their lives.  They assume 100% responsibility for their own lives.

How about you?

Here’s what Thrivers do, and how we all can do more of it.

What Thriving People Know About Forgiving and Moving On

Forgive and Move OnForgiveness is such a loaded term in our culture.  You are told by some to forgive, as if it is a burden that must be done.

Others tell you not to forgive, but to hold on to the hurt — so the other person is held responsible, I suppose.

Forgiveness, to me, is an opportunity.  Not an obligation or burden.  But an opportunity to step into a new future without the binding of old pains.

The cultural baggage around forgiveness has created some “myths” about forgiveness.  We misunderstand what forgiving is about, what it means, and how to do it.

Over the years, though, I have realized that people who thrive in life have mastered the skills of forgiving.  They do not see it as obligation, but simple opportunity.  It does cause us to look closely at ourselves and re-take control (and responsibility) for life.  That is a thriving opportunity.

Listen in to discover what forgiving is really about — and how to do it (6 simple steps).

What Thriving People Know About Accepting What Is

Thrivers Accept What Is.Things happen, and we wish they hadn’t.  Then, we fight against what we think might happen.  And we even fight against where we are right now.

The struggle does nothing to change what is.  In fact, the more we struggle, the less we are able to respond.

The less we are able to respond, the more stagnant we become.

But thriving people know to accept what is.  It becomes the starting point for growth and change.  It becomes the foundation of thriving.

Listen below for why thrivers accept what is, and how we all can thrive more!

What Thriving People Know About Thoughts

Thriving people do things differently.  But like success, thriving leaves a trail.  If you want to thrive more, look at what thriving people are doing, and follow their lead!

So, I have isolated 15 things that thriving people do differently.  And each week, we will be examining one of these traits.  Ready to thrive more?

Remember, thriving is not binary:  you are not either thriving or stagnant.  The question is can you thrive more?  Can you move toward a more thriving life, and away from stagnation?

Thriving is not about money, success, good looks, or even being happy all of the time.  It is about growing toward a greater, more fulfilling life.  It is growing into the person you were meant to be.

So, let’s get started.

A thought is a thought.First up, thrivers understand thoughts for what they are:  thoughts.

Listen below to discover what this means, and why it is so important in your life.