Life Isn’t Fair

Immutable Laws of Living

Immutable Law of Living:  Life Isn't Fair.  That's not the point.If you follow my marriage podcast, you know I am in the midst of a series on the “Immutable Laws of Marriage.”  These “laws” are violated at the expense of the relationship.  There are also Immutable Laws of Living.  And this week, we start looking at those laws.

No, you won’t be in legal trouble if you violate these laws.  You will be in thriving trouble, though.  These are laws that help us to thrive, if we abide by them.  And these laws hold us back, if we push against them.

The first “law” is also a cry I hear from many people, “Life isn’t fair!”  Indeed, it is not.  And that is not the point of life.  Life is not about “fair” or “unfair.”  People cry out about the unfairness of life, hoping that will change things, shift things to be fair.  That shift doesn’t happen.

But instead of shifting views, people continue to proclaim and protest, “Life Isn’t Fair.”

They are correct, and that is OK.  Here’s how to abide by this law.

Putting It All Together: Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Your Thiving Body Series Wrap-Up:  Putting It All Together.There is one reason I shared the Thriving Body Series:  so you can build a thriving body.  I have noticed that we live in a culture of body-shaming or body-ignoring.  We live in a world focused on “what you look like,” compared to some ideal created by media.  So, many people feel inadequate — leading to giving up or dysfunctional lifestyles.

Others simply pretend they don’t inhabit a body.  That is no better.  People act as if their physical body doesn’t count, ignoring the fact that their body is what takes them through life in this world.

What if the focus was on being healthy and well?  As well as possible, and healthy as possible, given the limits of each person’s own body.  Might that be a better “third way?”

During this series, I tried to focus on some big rubrics of a thriving body:  eating to nourish that body, exercising to build that body, resting to recharge that body, de-stressing to reduce the wear-and-tear on the body.

Now, we wrap the series up.  Let’s put it together and build a thriving body, so you can have a thriving life!

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Fueling You Thriving Body, Pt. 2

Moving Your Thriving Body
Resting Your Thriving Body
Calming Your Thriving Body

Calming Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Calm your thriving body -- without drugs and without becoming a hermit!“I’m so stressed out,” has become a very common refrain.  But what does that mean?  Have you paused for a moment to wonder, what is behind that idea?

We all have moments of feeling a bit overwhelmed and frazzled.  We all have times when we react to some event.  Our body comes along for the ride.  Adrenaline spikes, headaches strike, stomachs get upset, palms get sweaty. . . our body goes into Fight/Flight mode.  Not a pretty picture, and not very fun.

We all have our coping strategies.  Some are helpful and healthy, others — not so much.  Some people crawl under the covers and hide from those events.  Others rely on a few choice substances to forget those events or at least numb the body.

But some have found other, healthier, ways to face the events, understand their response, and move through the responses.  They experience the same event but learn to move through healthily and helpfully.

Let’s talk about the truth of stress — and how to deal with stress effectively , but healthily.

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Fueling You Thriving Body, Pt. 2

Moving Your Thriving Body
Resting Your Thriving Body

Resting Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Resting your thriving body.  How to get the sleep you need to thrive.Do you get the rest you (and your body) need?  Most people don’t.

Research on sleep reveals that almost 50% of people say they do not get enough sleep.

And your body takes a toll for this.  Slower healing, chronic disease, fuzzy thinking, physical decline, and even weight gain, all have been tied to a lack of adequate sleep.

Here is the painful truth:  if you are skipping on sleep, you are most likely just borrowing that time from the end of your life.  The more chronic your sleeplessness, the higher your chances of suffering from sleep-related health issues.

So, let’s talk about why you need sleep and how to get it.  And how to better quality sleep, the you do sleep.

Listen below to hear about how to rest your thriving body (and you can catch up on the Thriving Body Series in the links below).

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Fueling You Thriving Body, Pt. 2

Moving Your Thriving Body

 

 

Fueling Your Thriving Body, Part 2 – Your Questions Answered

Your Thriving Body Series

Part 2 of fueling your thriving body.  Answering your questions.Two podcasts ago, I covered fueling your thriving body (how to eat to thrive).

That raised some questions.  So this week, I answer your questions.

Let’s talk some more about the best sources for energy when you are fueling that thriving body.

And I can tell you some more of the reasons I have chosen the approach I follow.

It may not fit for you.  But just last night, I was chatting with several people who adopted my strategy when they saw the changes in my life.  To a person, they have become healthier and more resilient.  Several were able to drop prescriptions.  Several reported having symptoms disappear — things that had kept them from being active and involved (thriving, I would say).

Listen below for the 2nd part of Fueling Your Thriving Body.

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body
Moving Your Thriving Body

Moving Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Moving your thriving body: Exercise.We addressed how to fuel your thriving body (how to eat) last week.  That is a fundamental building block of a thriving body.

But what about building that thriving body?  That is all about exercise.

I look for the M.E.D. (Minimally Effective Dosage) of exercise.  What is the minimum you need to do, in order to get your body in shape?

It takes FAR less time than you might imagine.  In fact, many people OVER-exercise and miss the mark of building a thriving body.  They end up tearing it down, all in the effort of building it up.  (I see this mistake all the time.)

If you are wanting to get started, but can’t imagine fitting one more thing into your day, how about as little as 7 minutes?

Let’s talk about what to do to build your thriving body.  Listen below.

Your Thriving Body Series:
Introduction
Fueling Your Thriving Body

Fueling Your Thriving Body

Your Thriving Body Series

Fueling your thriving body.  Eating to thrive.Last week, we started a new series, Your Thriving Body.  My focus is on how we build a thriving body.  Not a “beach body,” not a six-pack.  Not any particular body shape.  But a thriving body.

We all have limits and limitations.  But how can we best live a thriving life, physically?

This became important to me when I was sick, realizing that I had neglected an important part of thriving:  your body has to take you through life.

With that in mind, we look at how you fuel your body.  I want to share my own journey of understanding the foods that best nurture my body.  We may not agree on all the pieces.  But I want to share my approach — and the “why” of my approach.

Fueling your body, nourishing it, is about experimenting with what works best for you.  So, lets chat about that!

Your Thriving Body

Intro To The New Series

Your Thriving BodySomehow I missed it.  I was cruising through life, doing my thing, working hard, and trying to move forward.

What did I miss?

That my body was what took me through life.

And it was quite a rude awakening.  Like a doctor telling you and your wife that you were headed for total disability — and then death.

That will wake you up! (Well, it woke me up, for sure.)

Here I was, learning about thriving and resilience, and my body was NOT thriving.  I was overweight, out of shape — and almost out of time!

You can hear the whole story in this week’s podcast.  But clearly, I did not die (at least, not yet).  And I began to recover my lost health.  I got serious about this body that had to carry me through life.  And I learned a few lessons along the way.

In this new series, I want to share some of what I learned.

(NOTE:  I am not a trainer, dietician, or physician.  This information comes from my own studies and experience.  I hope it is useful.  But it is not intended to replace the advice of experts.)

Get Unstuck Wrap-up

Final Installment in the Get Unstuck Series

BeyondStuckPeople get stuck for several reasons:

  1. The Past
  2. The Future
  3. Your Energy

None of the 3 have to keep you stuck.  First, you have to identify the source of “Stuck,” and then decide how to move through it.

Unstuck becomes a choice — but only after understanding the Stuck.  Stare at the Cost-Benefit and decide if you are just choosing to be stuck.  Or if you are ready to move beyond it.

As we wrap up the Get Unstuck series, I provide some specific steps to take in order to be free from the pains of the past, the anxieties of the future, and a lack of energy.  Join me as we move beyond Stuck.

GETTING UNSTUCK SERIES
Intro To Getting Unstuck
How You Get Stuck
You Are Not As Stuck As You Think
Give Up Your Goals & Get Unstuck
Loops
Shift Your Perspective
When Fear Has You Stuck
The KNAC Protocol For Getting Unstuck
4 Steps To Changing Limiting Beliefs

4 Steps To Changing Your Limiting Beliefs

Unstuck Series

Here's how to change your limiting beliefs and get unstuck.Within you, lurking just below the surface, there are some beliefs that are limiting you.  Your Limiting Beliefs influence your thoughts and your perspective.  They mold your paradigm and keep you held hostage.

You can break free from those beliefs.  You don’t have to be held hostage.  There is a simple 4-step process that will allow you to defeat and destroy those beliefs, once and for all.

Here are the 4 C’s steps:

C-onscious
C-hallenge
C-hange
C-ommit

And once you know the secret to uncovering the beliefs, you just apply the steps, one-by-one.  The limiting beliefs dissipate, replaced by your aspirational beliefs.

Try them out and tell me what you think!

GETTING UNSTUCK SERIES
Intro To Getting Unstuck
How You Get Stuck
You Are Not As Stuck As You Think
Give Up Your Goals & Get Unstuck
Loops
Shift Your Perspective
When Fear Has You Stuck
The KNAC Protocol For Getting Unstuck