4 C’s To Changing Your Limiting Beliefs: #32 Thriveology Podcast

Change your beliefs, change your results.We all have beliefs about ourselves, other people, and the world around us.  Sometimes, those beliefs help us to move forward with great success.

But many times, those beliefs hold us back and keep us trapped.

In last week’s podcast, we talked about the stories we tell ourselves when something happens to us.

This week, let’s talk about those beliefs that permeate our lives.  They are the recurring beliefs that can keep us stuck.

Maybe you believe that people won’t like you, or that people are angry with you.  Perhaps you believe life isn’t fair (and can even point to events that prove this).

These pervasive beliefs are often very limiting and negative.  They can keep us stuck, unable to grow and develop.

But what if you had a model to take on these beliefs and push them aside?  What if you could replace the limiting beliefs with freeing beliefs?

In this week’s podcast, I want to offer the 4 C’s to changing your beliefs.

(By the way, I discuss this method in my book, How To Save Your Marriage in 3 Simple Steps.)

Let me know how you use the method in the comments area below!

 

 

 

That Story You Are Telling Yourself? IT’S A LIE! (probably): #31 Thrive Nation Podcast

Make your story a good one!Yesterday, I told a lie.  To myself.

We all do it.  Everyday.

Here is the sad part:  the lies we tell ourselves are hurtful and limiting.  They keep us stuck and keep us feeling bad.

So why do we keep telling them?  Because they originate in some beliefs we hold, mostly about ourselves.  All we need is something to trigger the beliefs.  Some event happens and we suddenly start filling in the blanks, based on those beliefs.

Let’s say you are walking down the street and see someone looking your way.  The person is laughing.  That is the event.

You may think to yourself, “Isn’t that cool?  That person is having a good time and found something funny!”

Or you could say, “Why is that person laughing at me?  Is my hair looking funny?  Do my clothes look bad?”

Unless you go and ask the person why the person is laughing, you will never know which (or even another) story is right.  But the first story will leave you feeling upbeat, perhaps even looking for something humorous.  The second story will have you running to a mirror, feeling insecure, and wondering why that person is so mean.

The stories we tell impact how we feel, which impacts how we act.

Fortunately, there is a simple exercise you can do that will help you challenge your story, change your beliefs, feel differently, and have a different response.  That exercise is as easy as ABCDE.

Learn about this exercise in this week’s podcast — and let me tell you about the story I told myself this weekend!  Ouch!

Let me know what you think.  Leave a comment below!

Damaged, Resilient, or Thriving? #30 Thriveology Podcast

Are you damaged, resilient, or thriving?For a century or so, our culture has become increasingly “psychologized.”  Something bad happens to you, your psyche is injured, and your option is to realize what happened to you.  That is, generally, the topic of therapy:  discovering the roots of your injury.  In fact, perhaps on a bad day, Sigmund Freud said that the goal of therapy was to move from neurosis to common, ordinary, everyday unhappiness.  Not a particularly lofty goal!  This is a deficit model.

More recently, the model of resilience has taught that some fortunate people can have the same injury, but manage to make it back to “normal.”  Somehow, the trauma does not affect them in a negative way.  This is a “break even model.”

There are a small number of voices that have realized that every injury is truly a challenge — an opportunity for growth.  It is possible to take a hurt, pain, tragedy, challenge, or trauma, and use it as a springboard for growth.  This model is the “plus model,” a thriving model.

Which model captures you?  Can you move to (or even more into) a thriving model?  Join me in this week’s podcast to learn about the 3 models and how to move into a thriving model.

Suffering from PPM Syndrome? Why it is Dangerous to You!

Is Poor Pitiful Me Syndrome holding you back?PPM Syndrome is rampant in our society!  Do you suffer from it?  Do those around you suffer from it?

Chances are good that you are infected, and so are those around you.  PPM Syndrome is not regularly diagnosed, but can keep you stuck.  This one thing can keep you from thriving.

The first step is in determining whether you suffer from this syndrome.  The second step is learning about the antidote.

And the antidote is simple enough — but only if you know whether you have the syndrome or not.

PPM Syndrome infects many of us.  Some learn to move beyond it.  Others live with it, unnecessarily, for a lifetime.

Learn how to diagnose and treat this disorder!

Built For Impact: #28 Thriveology Podcast

You are designed for impact.Do you wonder why you are here?  Are you wondering what purpose you have in the world?

You have something unique to offer to the world.  It is something only YOU can do to impact the world.

Life satisfaction comes from being a person of impact.  Change in your own life and in the life of those around you only comes from being a person of impact.

As humans, we are designed for impact.  We are designed to create an impact in our own life, the lives of those around us, and in the lives of others.

What?  You don’t think you are impacting the world?  You don’t think you have anything to offer?  Let me prove you wrong!

In this week’s Thriveology Podcast, I tell you several reasons why you may not be making an impact.  But more importantly, I give you several ways of becoming a person of impact.

Let me know what you think in the comments area below!

Life, Liberty, and “Having Fun”: #27 Thriveology Podcast

Meaning of pursuit of happiness.We seem to be in “pursuit of happiness,” just like the founding fathers of the United States promised!

Or did they???

July 4th, Independence Day in the United States, often ends up being one more excuse to party and have a good time.  No problem there. . . unless that becomes our only real pursuit.

I was chatting with someone last week and asked, “what are you doing this weekend?”  His answer, “Pursuing happiness.”  Then, he reminded me this was a promise in the Declaration of Independence.

I just wonder, was Thomas Jefferson really putting together the idea of Life, of Liberty, and of “Having Fun” as the three guarantees of being human, protected by government?

Or have we just made the meaning too easy, too cheap, too hedonistic.  Sure, there is a place for a good time, but it is likely not important enough to be protected by the founding of a country.

So, what is the real meaning of “pursuit of happiness?”  I examine this in the latest Thriveology Podcast.  And I discuss how the pursuit of happiness, as originally intended, can help you thrive.

Join me as we find better ways to thrive!

Dealing with Roadblocks and Life Knocks: #26 Thriveology Podcast

life roadblocks and how to copeYou can guarantee life will hand you lumps.  You can guarantee there will be roadblocks and tough times.

How will you respond?  Will you believe “this just isn’t meant to be?”  Or will you believe something else is possible?

In this week’s podcast, I share some of my own life struggles and talk about how we can cope better with roadblocks and tough times.

Let’s learn how to thrive better together, and discuss some strategies for dealing with those life challenges.  You CAN face life, even when life seems unfair and challenging.

In fact, a thriving mindset equips you to thrive EVEN BETTER BECAUSE OF the life struggles, not in spite of.

Release From Resentment: #25 Thrive Nation Podcast

In the last podcast, we took a look at regretFreeYourselfFromResentment.  Regret ties you to the past.  And so does resentment.  Resentment keeps us tied to past events and hurts, keeping us from living in the present.

More than that, resentment keeps us tied to pain and anger.  It causes us to keep our distance, protect ourselves, and close ourselves off.  Resentment ends up being a cage.

But you don’t have to be caged by resentment.  you can free yourself and let go of your resentment.

You are designed to be free of resentment.  It is a natural process, once you get out of your own way.  Learn why resentment sticks around and how to release it in this week’s podcast.

A Life of Regret or A Life Reset?: #24 Thriveology Podcast

A life of regret or a life reset.Regret.  It keeps us locked in the past.  Yet we all struggle to let it go.  Why?

If I had a friend that told me what I tell myself about my past short-fallings, mistakes, and missed opportunities, I would send them away.  I would never speak to them again.

So why do we listen to that voice that keeps reminding us of the past?  Why do we stay trapped by what has happened and can’t be changed?

Or perhaps more importantly, what can we do to make a shift?  How can we go from a life of regret to a life reset?

In this podcast, I explore 5 steps to leave regret behind and make a life reset.

Join me, won’t you?

The Problem Is Enough: #23 Thriveology Podcast

How to thrive in any situation.Problems.  We all have them.

Difficulties.  They come with living.

Tragedies.  It is a part of life.

This past couple of weeks, my wife has been in the hospital.  She was quite sick and feeling quite bad.  This event gave me a little “thought exercise.”  I realized that there were two things going on.  First, my wife was sick.  That was bad enough.  Next was my thinking about that.  I kept playing out scenarios.  It took a little time, but I managed to remind myself that thriving is about taking life as it comes.

Thriving does not happen when we get lost in our catastrophizing thinking.  It comes when we accept what has happened, and then decide what to do from there.

In this week’s podcast, I take a look at the fact that the problem is not the problem.  How we think about the problem IS the problem.