Make An Impact

Make an impact!  You were designed for that.It is my observation that humans are designed to make an impact, to make a difference, in the world.

It is also my observation that, when we stop making an impact, we start acting in unhealthy ways.  Addictions are fueled by a lack of making a difference.  It leaves a hole that people seek to fill with unhealthy options.

People become despondent, depressed, and hopeless.  Quickly, the world looks like a hostile place, full of greedy people who are only out for themselves.

That often ends up only being a reflection of what we most fear.

The amazing thing about making an impact is the ripple effect.  Wherever you start, the effect begins to grow, often in exponential ways.  You start making an impact in your own life, and it grows.  Perhaps you start making healthy choices.  Those choices lead to other healthy choices.  People around you notice, and they begin to make healthy choices.  People around them do the same.  It grows, it ripples outward.

Or perhaps you start to volunteer somewhere, start making a difference in the lives of the people of that organization.  Their lives change.  They begin changing other lives.  The ripples go on and on.

When we don’t make an impact, but only stay in our comfort zone, the waves crash in on us, pushing us down.

But the way out from under is one thing:  action.  Not a “change the world” action, but a small action.  One that grows.  Soon, your impact is growing.

Join me in this podcast, as I discuss how thrivers make an impact!

Be Courageous: What Thrivers Know

Be courageous.Are you courageous?  If you are like most people I know, you will tell me you are not.  “Not me,” you will say, “I am too afraid to be courageous.”

I would remind you that if you are afraid, you are half-way to courage.  The only element missing is acting.

If you do something and are not at all fearful, then that is just doing something (and likely not anything particularly important).

But if you are feeling fear, and you choose to take action anyway, then you have acted courageously.  More than that, you are probably doing something important.

Too often, we use fear as an “avoidance indicator.”  Really, it is an “importance indicator.”  What is most important to you likely exists just on the other side of your fears.  Act in that direction.  Be courageous.

Listen to learn how.

 

Act On Your Convictions

Thrivers act on their convictions.We all move through life, either purposely choosing a direction, or allowing the vicissitudes of life to push us along.  Either way, we are making a choice.  We are either choosing our directions or choosing to let ourselves be moved about.

Thrivers make a choice to move through life based on their convictions.  Their moral compass guides them through choosing directions.

Some people have described this as “what you do when nobody is looking.”  While this is true, it is also what you do when everybody is looking!  When the pressure is on to go in a certain direction, do we choose to follow our convictions or follow the crowd?  When we have a personal choice, do we follow our own internal compass or take the easy choice?

Usually, the seemingly “easy” choice is not.  In the human desire to “not rock the boat,” though, we end up just moving the tough stuff down the road a bit.  And not surprisingly, by the time we get there, the complications have set in.  The tough stuff is tougher.

Thriving is often realizing that going through and dealing with the tough stuff is a crucial part of life.  So, thrivers choose to go ahead and make the tough decisions.  They take responsibility right then, and they make the tough choices — based on their convictions.

Listen for how to act on convictions.

Building A Life Of Meaning And Purpose

Build a life of meaning and purpose.I believe that we, as humans, have an innate need for purpose in our lives.  We need to find meaning in life.

When we don’t, we flounder.  We fill the “purpose hole” with other things.  Addictions, distractions, mid-life crises — all the result of NOT building a life of meaning and purpose.

We yearn for it.  We itch for it.  But most people don’t know how to scratch it.

Humans are Purpose Builders and Meaning Makers.  But we forget.  We chase after the wrong things, aim at the wrong targets — and then wonder why we make a mess of life.

But thrivers know better.  People who thrive have built lives around purpose.  They have discovered meaning in life.

What about you?  Is your life about purpose?  Are you finding the meaning in your life?

Listen to find out how to build more purpose and find more meaning in your life.

Thrivers Care For Themselves

ThriversCareForSelvesYears ago, I was learning all I could about resilience, personal development, and how to thrive.

I forgot one very important element:  my physical health.  My body, it would seem, I just left out of the equation.

My body did send me a loud “wake up call.”  When the doctor told my wife I was headed for disability and eventual death, due to a diagnosis he had made, I woke up.

Well, to be honest, it still took me several months.  During those months, I was just struggling to move forward, one plodding foot at a time.  But about 4 months in, I was starting to get better — and realize I was NOT where I needed to be, physically.

As I discovered, it was my body that needed to cart around my thriving mind.  And, in fact, it was much easier for my mind to be thriving when my body was thriving.

Let me be clear:  this is not about being in optimal, ready-for-magazine cover, shape.  It is about taking care of your body, so that you can truly thrive.  We all have a different level of what is possible.  For most of us, though, there is room for improvement.

Learn about the 4 areas I recommend, and the very simple recommendations I make in this week’s podcast.

What Thrivers Do To Raise Their Personal Standards

Raise your personal standards.What do you expect of yourself?  What are those traits in yourself that you think are crucial?  Those attributes you treasure?

Those are your Standards.  They mark what you expect of yourself, what you expect to live up to.

Last week, I discussed boundaries.  Boundaries are the “No’s” to others, “no, you can’t treat me that way.”

Standards are “Yes’s” to yourself, “yes, I will live my life that way.”  For example, “yes, I will be honest with others.”  Or “yes, I will be loyal to my friends.”  Or “yes, I will live up to my commitments.”

Thrivers know to define their Personal Standards.  But more than that, thrivers know they can raise their Standards — live them out to a higher and higher degree.

How about you?  Do you know your Standards?  Can you live them to a higher level?

What Thrivers Do To Set Boundaries

Set and maintain clear boundaries.Your line in the sand.  Your personal fence line.  It is when you say “No.”  They are boundaries.

We all have limits.  People make demands upon us or treat us poorly, and we must all decide our limits.

Unfortunately, many people feel guilty for setting a boundary.  Saying “No” makes many people feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, demanding, or somehow unacceptable.

But if you can’t say “No,” you can’t really say “Yes.”

Having clear boundaries — setting them and maintaining them — teaches others how to treat us.  And when we teach others how to treat us, we get to focus on what is important to us.  Not just what others want you to find important, but what YOU find important.

Let’s talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, what to avoid, and how to maintain them.

 

What Thrivers Do To Nurture Spirituality

NurtureSpiritualityWe all know it:  there is an essence deep within.  There is something that calls us to a higher place, a deeper perspective, a need for purpose.

Thrivers know they must nurture and protect their sense of spirituality.  That is the essence within each of us.

When we speak of spirituality, some people get a bit nervous.  Some even react with anger.  Some claim there is nothing there.  Many confuse it with religion.

I believe that this essence within us is quite obvious.  We are drawn toward meaning.  We experience moments of amazement and awe.  We become aware, even briefly, of how each of us are connected to everything else.

Those glimpses, those moments, are experienced by us. . . and then we try to rationalize it or distance from it.  But it is there.  Like it or not, it is there.

People who thrive know this and accept it.  More than that, thrivers work to nurture their spirituality — not their religion, but their spirituality.

Here is why it is important, and how to do it.

 

What Thriving People Know About Gratitude And Appreciation

What Thrivers Know About Gratitude And AppreciationSome people seem to just know how to thrive.  For the rest of us, we need to learn the skills of thriving.

Today, we discuss one skill easily learned, with incredible impact.  And it is one I work to incorporate into my life.

Thrivers practice gratitude and appreciation.

Gratitude is the attitude and mindset of noticing what is right, what is enough, and what is in abundance in our lives.  You see, our brains naturally look at the world through scarcity — “I don’t have enough.”  But there is another mode, one that switches the brain to love — Gratitude!

When we focus upon and look for the pieces of life for which to be grateful, our brain begins to switch modes.  It re-wires to look for more evidence of abundance.  And when we show appreciation, we carve out stronger bonds with those around us.

Practicing gratitude leaves you more satisfied and happy, healthier, better connected, less depressed, and less anxious.

And you can practice gratitude in just a few minutes each day!

Learn how in this week’s podcast.

What Thriving People Do To Show Up

Show UP to life!Think about 2 types of people.  First, there are the ones that trudge through the day, waiting for the next thing.  They may have a conversation with you, but nobody is really there.  They are a bit vacant and distant.  Often, their eyes are a bit dull.

The second group of people seem to embrace the day — this moment. . .  this moment. . . this moment. . . .

When you speak with them, they are listening, hanging onto your words, eyes twinkling and flashing.

That second group of people?  They are Showing Up.  They are present in the present.

Where do you place yourself?  Which group do you fit into?  Which group would you like to be MORE like?

Thrivers are the ones that Show Up to life.  Learn how thrivers do it, and how anyone can do it more and more.